There Are Children Of War Out There

Iraqi ChildrenHe didn’t choose. He just remembers himself with a short pants, sitting back the car. Mom was crying. And dad didn’t have any tongue to talk. Sister was gazing the road from window, seemed to be in other frontier. He didn’t know anything, he was too child to know that at the moment they’ve written the story for him.

He didn’t choose. He didn’t say: ” Oh Dad, take everything we have in our suitcase and save our lives.” He didn’t ask why they leave home, the alley, the all things they used to call them Homeland, and run away. He didn’t say that trip can not be enjoyable without his bicycle and toys. He even didn’t ask where they’re going with those tears on eyes. He didn’t say anything. He was just 4 years old. He didn’t choose war.

Have you ever seen people of war? People who don’t choose war, yet war chooses them. I’ve seen them before. During Iran-Iraq war, During Russia-Afqanistan war, During Taliban-US war, During Iraq-US war. Yet im seeing them, here and there. They run away from war to the utmost place they can. When you don’t have your homeland, what difference can be between Iran, Syria, Jordan, Turkey and etc. You just run away without your choice.

From the southest place you go to northest, to a place that you don’t hear explosion of war, you even don’t smell it. And He was one of them, didn’t have any choice. Maybe if he had a choice..

He didn’t choose to stay at home for one year, and doesn’t understand why the weather is always rainy, why everywhere cries cries.. His choice was not staying at home and gazing on mom’s tears. His choice was not gazing on dad when at the age of 40 years old suddenly got zero. With a wife and 2 children that still can’t understand what’s going on them.

Dad was optimistic to come back again and mom could only pray for end of war, yet he even didn’t choose the time that dad got disappointed to go back homeland. He didn’t want his start in other country, in other capital, in a place that its sundown was strange for him, in a city that he didn’t know its people. His heart fell down on the floor, from so much silence, so many walls. And he couldn’t take it back.

Now The school days are moments of loneliness. He is between many children and he is alone. Classmates don’t understand him. Not bcs they are stupid. They have this right. For they have not raised like him, without any choice. They have not been without friend. They have never lost their homeland.

It is sound of street. Children play in the alley. They hit the ball to the wall. There is no sign of loneliness in their eyes. They have not heard about war in their neighbor. They just knock the door and say: ” Tell your son to come playing with us.” They are 2 boys and a girl: ” Come to play with us.” He goes. At first with doubt. Yet after sometime he find out the most strange existence in the world; Friend..

He has not chosen again, they’ve chosen him. But there are better days in tomorrows. He will be one of them who choose his destiny. He will choose, me, you, himself, all things, all people. He will choose for all those days he couldn’t choose, for all unchosen moments. He has many words to say. But it is not a story. It is what’s happening around the world, from yesterday to tomorrow. It is reality of life, about all of them who have not chosen their fate; Children of War..

P.S: There is a good event on monday, October 8th intoduced in Darvish Blog for Interfaith Fast for Peace in Iraq . This peace in Iraq is one of the most thing i’ve wanted whole Ramadan from God and prayed for. You also dont forget Iraqis during your prayers. Spc Children.. ;)

33 Responses to “There Are Children Of War Out There”

  1. amal Says:

    oh shahrzad that would be wonderful , wars make me feel sick , I have never actualy experienced a war but my family has , it is very distressing and all you can ask is how has mankind become so cruel ?
    subanallah , may allah put mercy back in the hearts of man ameen
    their is always hope for tommorow today is a bad , tommorow will be a better day . :)

  2. Shahrzad Says:

    Amal, You dont know how much tear came across my cheek when i was writing this entry. Yet i know always tomorrows are other days.. Better ones insha’allah.. :)

  3. 'liya Says:

    “People who don’t choose war, yet war choose them.”

    The interfaith fast for peace sounds like a good idea.

  4. Shahrzad Says:

    ‘liya, Yes, Seems to be good. Spc bcs that’s before end of Ramadan :)

  5. darvish Says:

    Your story made me cry too. Inshallah, the world will one day put an end to war if people of all faiths and nations come together as brothers and sisters and refuse to participate in the madness of their leaders.

    Ya Haqq!

  6. Shahrzad Says:

    darvish, Ameen for your do’a :)

  7. youngMuslimah Says:

    i think it’ll continue till Allah’alam..Allah says in the Qura’an ” verily Allah doesnt change the state of a nation until they change themselves”..

    btw- shahrzad is an iranian name? there’s this girl in my univ with the same name..no offense meant but iranians here in my univ wear clothes and hijab in such a way they wont dream of wearing in iran cos of the strict rules there! it’s so sad:(..i wish iran had done something to educate the youth abt islam instead of enforcing rules that evoke rebellion..

  8. Shahrzad Says:

    Young Muslimah, Welcome to my blog sis. Your words are true, but Iraqis’ problem is not just by Iraqis. Nobody exactly knows what’s going on in Iraq. Wars happen here and there by powerful government like US and Europ for gas. And in some countries like what happend to Lebanon and Palestine, By Israel for land.. All eople are those who choose war?! Of course no..

    Yes, Shahrzad is a persian name, mean born in City or civilized, and Shahriar who was her mate in 1001 nights, is again persian name, mean King. The 1001 story at first was indian stories, then persian writers during Sassanid era, gathered the stories in Pahlavi (Anciant Persian) and named it 1001 nights. After Islam came to Iran, Arab writers translated the story to arabic and named it Arabian nights. :)

    No offending dearest. I know what you say. Really every religious education gets started from family. There was an Ata Turk in Turkey who tried to remove Islam, and we had kind of Ata Turk as King Reza and his son in Iran too for more than 50 years. So our parents of parents were forced to remove Hijab and give religion up.
    After Islamic revolution story got changed. I can not defend them when Everything came to get Islamic by force, yet the base of society was not ready for that big change. That’s why in nowadays Iran, more youths are too westernized and not religious.. Anyway there are iranians who act such muslims in other countries. I personaly take hijab outside of Iran. Every where you go in this world, There are believers and non believers. We can not judge a nation by part of its society. Can we? .. ;)

    Pray for Iraqis. Pain of Iraq is pain of Muslim world..

  9. Ashi Says:

    That is so sad but what’s even sadder is that he is one of the lucky ones…

  10. Shahrzad Says:

    Ashi, Yes Dear, So sad. Yet as you said it could be worse than that, could be they would die innocently during war.. At least they are lucky to stay alive..

  11. Sumera Says:

    What I find incredibly sad is that when people come into power, the method of which they “demonstrate” popularity or modernity, or anything really is my telling the women what they can or can’t do!

    Why can’t they just leave the women as they are? Grrr

  12. Shahrzad Says:

    Sumera, That’s really true. I can see what you’re telling here, in my country when i look at the history.
    Before revolution, the first movement to remove islam in Iran, got started from Hijab. After revolution, the first movement toward Islam, got started from Hijab..
    Interesting that all powers at first start from women, weather it be hijab or Not. And yet i didnt get an answer for it that why women?!

  13. Ashi Says:

    Women don’t seem to realize all the things they mean to men, and men don’t realize these subconscious things either.

    Men have to control women for many reasons. One is honor, in many societies and Muslim society especially, a man and his family’s honor is permanently linked to his wife, daughter, sister, mother. Why? I don’t know, it’s a stupid system. I saw a movie once where a girl said “If a woman’s honor is her virginity where is a man’s honor?” Why is a man’s honor not tied to his own actions but rather that of the women around him? For all of their self promotion as the stronger sex, why do they have nothing to base their own honor off of?

    The second reason is because women are mothers. A father can have a firm hand in the household, but even the most domineering man cannot change the fact that nothing shapes the next generation as do women. Heaven is under the mother’s feet, that’s the saying isn’t it? On the day of resurrection we will be called by our mother’s names, not our fathers, Rise son of Fatima, daughter of Aisha, etc etc.

    Men feel they have to control women to control the next generation, the hearts and minds of today’s children = the societal values of tomorrow.

    I could keep typing forever I think I have typed long enough.

  14. Unique Muslimah Says:

    Sis, that was beautifully written, and it feels like it really came from your heart. It was just beautiful, the way you described things and the words you chose. May Allah be with them…thank you for reminding us to keep them in our duaa this ramadan… keep writing, you really have a gift for describing to the reader things that they can really see in front of them

  15. spadinaplace Says:

    Shahrzad first off thank you for visiting my site. Like some have expressed here the story told is very touching.

    War is a waste and there is so much that could be done for the human family if war would end.

  16. youngMuslimah Says:

    shahrzad, i’ve been here before, so u dont need to welcome me :-)
    you got me wrong. Allah ta’ala mentioned in the Qur’an, if we (muslims) go away from our religion, He azza wajal will bring anothere nation upon us. that’s what exactly is happening..muslims being killed everywhere, ..

    Ok, i get the islamic revolution part. But I dont agree with the strict rules enforced in Iran. Our beloved nabi salAllahu ‘alayhee wasallam said : “Show leniency (to the people); don’t be hard upon them; give them glad tidings (of Divine favors in this world and the Hereafter); and do not create aversion. Work in collaboration and don’t be divided.” In another hadith, `Anas (ra) narrates that the Prophet said: “Give glad tidings (to the people); do not create (in their minds) aversion (towards religion); show them leniency and do not be hard upon them.”

    “Invite (all) to the Way of thy Lord with wisdom and beautiful preaching; and argue with them in ways that are best and most gracious: for thy Lord knows best, who have strayed from His Path, and who receive guidance.” (An-Nahl: 125)

    The Prophet salAllahu ‘alayhee wasallam is reported to have said: “Indeed, gentleness adds more beauty to the atmosphere it reposes therein.”

    The du`ah (callers to Islam) of today need to learn from the noble Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) in order to draw people to Islam, instead of driving them away. There is also a need to change the language of da`wah itself. wAllahu ta’alam’alam

  17. Shahrzad Says:

    Ashi, It was very good point of view. Interesting.. That’s true.. That honor Issue makes me sick really. And that part that parents wanna control the next generations. It is something like staffing traditions, weather they be wrong or wring into brain of children.
    And kind of controling get continued..

    This kind of behaving, is dangerous, for any group which come on power, use this weakness that men make for women, transfer a wrong thought and view to next generations..
    I enjoyed reading your comment so much. If you didnt finish, i would enjoy forever… :)

  18. Shahrzad Says:

    Unique, That’s sweet of you :) As you said i wrote this entry really from my heart. Thank you for your nice words.. It really encourages me.. Ameen for you Du’a.. :)

    spadinaplace, Thank you to visit my blog.. Yes war is a waste.. Yet that’s wild way of that “democratic” west you mentioned to answer my comment, making kind of wars in the Middle East and sucking blood of people there, of course not for kindness, but only bcs of petroleum, gas and Money!! Anyway.. Long story..

  19. Shahrzad Says:

    youngMuslimah, Your Quranic verse you mentioned and the Ahadith were very beautiful. Thank you really to share them with me.. I enjoyed reading them. And your words is true about Da’wah.. :)
    Yet the only islamic law that is by force in Iran is Hijab. I mean all women should have an scarf on their head. They are not forced even to cover all hair. That’s all.. It is a law, like France that doesnt let muslim girls go to school with hijab.
    But nobody takes their hand and forces them to go to pray. Nobody ban education, driving and being involved in society and political community for them. (like what they do in some gulf countries)
    Nobody tells them that they have to stay at home and not to go to work. I hope once you travel to Iran and see what’s happening in this country..
    An example for a free Irani woman who has lived alone since 7 years ago, works, studies, and lives freely in Iran, is here front of your eye; Me, Shahrzad.. ;)

    I am not dogmatic about my country or government. I dont think my country is part of paradise.. I have my criticisms toward all of them, and i disagree with part of our politics.. But notice that Unfortunately it is weakness of Iranians that by a stupid word, lose their trust on their identity and culture and beliefs and get westernized soon..
    If they give up religion now, that’s not bcs of restriction, but bcs of lack of Islamic education..

    I dont know about first years after revolution, for i was little kid. Yet Iran of today is not restrict religious anymore. From my personal experiance in other countries, I think after Malaysia and Indonesia, Iran of today is the most democratic country in the muslim world.. ;)

  20. Ashi Says:

    Aww thank you! It was an attempt at response to Sumera’s question, though it did get a bit long-winded!

    I’m not a “radical feminist” by any means but I am big on women’s rights because I feel like Islam, which gives women amazing rights, has been overshadowed by pre-Islamic and tribal customs. Perfect example – the Burqa. Maybe I will make my own post on it sometime.

    But in the meanwhile, keep writing! I can’t get enough of your stories!

  21. youngMuslimah Says:

    Yet the only islamic law that is by force in Iran is Hijab. I mean all women should have an scarf on their head. They are not forced even to cover all hair. That’s all.. –> are you sure? There’s been constant news about religious police picking up on women with tight coats or half covered hair and men with ‘western’ hairstyles.

    Nobody tells them that they have to stay at home and not to go to work. I hope once you travel to Iran and see what’s happening in this country.—> i hope you didnt get offended! no, i’m talking abt the religious plicing that’s been on the newsin the recebt past. why are journalists jailed? ahmadinejad’s visit to columbia univ made several people question the freedom of speech in his country..i’m asking you, so dont get offended :p

    .
    An example for a free Irani woman who has lived alone since 7 years ago, works, studies, and lives freely in Iran, is here front of your eye; Me, Shahrzad.. —> alone? u mean yr family doesnt stay in iran? that’s interesting.

    But notice that Unfortunately it is weakness of Iranians that by a stupid word, lose their trust on their identity and culture and beliefs and get westernized soon..
    If they give up religion now, that’s not bcs of restriction, but bcs of lack of Islamic education.. —-> i think its b/c of restriction plus lack of islamic education. and the same thing happens in the place where i was born n raised –saudi arabia.

    anyway, osrry to tuen this post into a political/religious debate.

  22. youngMuslimah Says:

    *recent past

  23. youngMuslimah Says:

    *recent past
    *sorry to turn

    aghh ,..typos!!

  24. Shahrzad Says:

    Young,
    lol.. NP, I make mistake too when i am commenting :)

    There are contast news, yet i told you. You need to walk in the street and see what’s happening in the country like Iran. I personally wear modern hijab style, till now nobody came to me to say hey girl wear like this or that. ;)

    Yes, we have journalists in jail for political reasons. There are the same in any country. Yet they do it hidden, And advertise what Iran did. It is not something related to Da’wah or religion really. It is some laws that every country has for a stable security. Some Red Lines. Like when every Irani enters the US, they take finger print without any reason. ;)
    Journalism is not an easy job, and you need to know that it is also very dirty job.

    lol.. I dont know why you thought my family dont live in Iran. They live in Iran since they got born. I have lived in other city for my job (Journalism) and my study. I wanted to show that an Irani girl is free if she wanna live alone as single and no problem for it. That’s something i know many muslim girls dream to have. Just it!

    Anyway, again i think Iranian women are culturally more free that Saudi women. I traveled to Saudi and i saw place of women there.

    I agree that there are problems, restrictions, mistakes, stupid people in my country. I didnt decline the idea. Yet always they advertise about Iran and muslim world in their media. You’ve ever seen, they come to show reality of their society and jails?!! I want to say there is not really free land in this world, as they advertise. Every country has its spc restrictions and laws.

    It was a political post, and i got happy to know your opinians. You have good and analytical mind. I agree with you that it is not time of inner conflict between muslims, we need Unity more than any other thing..

    I hope someday every extrimism gets finished. That’s my wish too.. I know how much extrimism can damage spirit of beautiful Islam.. :)

    We have all the beautiful feeling, being sisters and brothers in Islam.. :)

  25. youngMuslimah Says:

    I know the modern hijab. iranian girls wear it in my univ ( some dont even wear hijab). I find it so odd, I mean if you’re gonna wear tight jeans and a short shirt (that reveals the stomach) why bother wearing hijab in the first place? you wont be only demenaing the hijab but also confusing the kafirs. and oops no offense meant, but arabs usually wear the ‘modern’ hijab. hey iran is not an arab country :) but egyptians, palestinians, emiratis etc..all wear the ‘modern’ hijab. it’s sad:(

    yes we need unity in the muslim world. a hug to you from me :)
    May Allah guide us and forgive our shortccomings, Ameen..

  26. Shahrzad Says:

    Young, I dont mean that hijab as modern hijab. The iranian modern hijab is Mantou, which has length more than under knees. And we wear it with pants, and scarf. Even when i am in other country, i wear kind of Hijab. Mean i dont wear the traditional hijab name as Chador or Abaya.. It is not tight and is not showing my body..

    I think definition of Iranian Modern Hijab is different from other muslims countries, for mantou is official clothes of iranian girls and different from kind of short blouse you mean.. what i mean is similar to Jilbab in arab countries.. :)

    Oh honey hug for you too.. You wanna join to circle of unity?
    Check the link: http://shahrzaad.wordpress.com/circle-of-unity/
    Ameen for your du’a.. :)

  27. youngMuslimah Says:

    yeah but i was not talking abt you, why will i, i didnt even see the way u wear hijab, maybe u can post your picture here ;)
    i was talking abt iranian girls in my univ. i ‘m not being biased ok, 2 iranians in one of myclass were chador. anyway as long as u wear loose clothes and cover all your body (except face n hands) and hair, it’s ok..:)
    your’e right abt saudi women..but then it’s not that bad as media portrays. hijab is not even a rule, only the abayah is..

    i will check out the unity url.. hey i LOVED the way ahmadinejad spoke at columbia univ. man, that guy’s got guts and intellignece masha’Allah!

    my books are screaming for attention now lol:D nice talking to you!

  28. Shahrzad Says:

    Young, loool, yes, the only job i need to do is puting my foto here.. Haha..

    Which university you are? It is interesting that they wear chador in Uni.. They are allowed to wear like that? Which country you are?

    Yes, this man is straight and asked very good Questions. I heard Bush was very mad at him after the conference.. I can not tell i am his friend. Yet i really liked his talks. Wonderful.. You know? we have a saying in Iran that Nobody dares to answer a Tehrani (People from capital of Iran).. Tehranis are very silver tounged persians, talk with kind of sarcasm and nobody can challenge with them lool..
    He is Tehrani boy though .. :D

  29. youngMuslimah Says:

    u expect me to mention the name of my univ here ? lol . i’m in the UAE. there’s complete religious freedom here. I mean of course PDA is not allowed ;) a lot of women wear niqab also. i too wear an abayah and hijab :)

    bush us mad at ahmadinejad? lol why wont he? i heard CNN stopped broadcasting the min ahmadinejad started talking abt US support for saddam in the 80’s. great freedom of sppech huh.

  30. youngMuslimah Says:

    bush is*
    anyway i loved the way ur president quoted from the Qur’an. it was beautiful! he handled the insults too well. May Allah help him!

  31. youngMuslimah Says:

    just writing this to make sure u notice the abv comments;)

  32. Shahrzad Says:

    Young, lol.. Oh of course it is not good to say name of your uni here.. I know about universities in UAE.. I traveled to Dobai before.. That was beautiful.. I liked the freedom there for i am against hijab force anyway.. Even if i am hijabi.. :)

    I told you, he has raised in Tehran and has Tehrani tongue mashallah lol.. I am happy that at least he made a sense in heart of muslims.. They need to feel powerful.. But their leaders dont make kind of sense. Even just it be by talking.. Again this dirty politics, I hate it.. ;)

    I noticed your comment before your last comment :D .. Thank you.. Today i learnt so much from you, good girl :)

  33. aMmAr Says:

    Your words are so thought provoking. It is very sad what is happening in Iraq. My father some time jokes that we shiites are their just to shed blood. And its a fact!

    Anyway your political approach is worth praising and I am not saying this to flatter you ;) but I am actually impressed. Usually girls of your age are not good when it comes to current affairs/politics.


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