Problems To Marry Iranian Girl


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Are you in love with an Iranian girl? Are you gonna ask her to marry you and be you forever wife? Honestly, Good Idea. Iranian women are very loyal to their family.
Yet always every country has its laws for marriage, so does Iran. If you have a non Iranian nationality, mean if you are a foreigner, There are problems to marry your wife.

Previously, it was very easy for non-Iranian to come to Iran and marry their girl. Usually they used to pass a short process, sign some papers, then have an Islamic Legal Nikah and marry their girl forever. They could easily take her to their country and have happy life. In this way, many Pakistanis, Arabs and westerners got married to Iranian girl in Iran.

Yet after a while, some Iranian boys tried to use the opportunity. They made themselves such a very rich handsome foreigner and proposed girls to marry them. Those stupid girls used to believe they are real rich handsome foreigners. Dreaming to live in the west, and its glamour, had made their eyes blind to see the reality. At the moment those boys worked good on girls’ mind. When they were completely sure that girl is in love with them, they asked her to give them some money, for they have “Dollars” and don’t want converting it to “IR Rials”. Anyway those poor girls used to sell their gold sets and take their cash from bank and give them to the dishonest guy. And before having legal marriage, he would run away.

After too many protests from girls to family court , Iranian ministry of justice tried to find a solution. And they found finally.

Since then, all Iranian guys who want to marry a foreigner girl, don’t have any problem. Yet when a foreigner guy want to marry an Iranian girl, both of them need to pass a long process and give some documents to prove their honesty. A letter from Interpol ( International Criminal Police Organization ) that the man hasn’t had any crime before and never went to jail. A letter from country of origin that by now the man  is not married to other woman in his country and he is known as single, And if the woman is Muslim, based on Islamic rule, a letter that proves the guy converted to Islam too.

The girl also need to give kind of document. Personally I think it is very good job to support girls, for they finally get sure with who they gonna marry. Yet the process is too long  and frustrating and takes almost 2 or 3 months and both girl and boy must stay in Iran until finishing the process. It is long time for a couple who know each other enough and dont need to go through the process. Usually the guy bcs of his job or his visa, can not stay that long in Iran. At the moment, they can easily go to Turkey and marry in a week. So why they have to pass that long time?

Culture of Iran, particularly culture of big cities, allow boy and girl to be as girl friend and boy friend. Most of time the relationship is under control of family, yet sometimes they have sexual relationships too. Yet when they get engaged, all family expect them to have a wedding and start their married life. There is not kind of too long engagement in Iran. The most time can be 2 years, and not over that. Anyway, families are commited to have Islamic lifetime Nikah for engagement.

There is no limitation after Nikah for new couple to be with each other, yet they are always adviced strongly to have a wedding in short time and go to their home.

I know it is not culture of many western countries. They have longterm engagement, even 5, 6, 7 or 8 years or sometimes more. And even after that long time maybe they don’t marry at all, or they marry when they have babies. So a westerner who gonna marry an Iranian girl sometimes gets confused by this culture.

About dowry or big wedding, it is related to couple. And nowadays those are girl and boy who decide about having or not to have a dowry or wedding.

Anyway, Girl in Iranian culture is always respected and a lovely part of family. More parents love to have girl for their first baby instead of boy. When Iranian family has a girl, they like to introduce to every single person they see that they have girl.

There are legal and cutural problems to marry an Iranian girl. There are good and bad people every where, but most of the time, married life will be fortunate. Anyway
I took the idea of the post, when i was checking my Search Engine Terms and i saw somebody has searched this sentence: “problems with marrying a girl from iran”. It was just interesting for me!

Updated: For some reasons, i had to change the foto. The new foto is a sign for Iranian ministry of foreigner affairs in Iran..

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277 Responses to “Problems To Marry Iranian Girl”

  1. Irving Says:

    Haha, I am glad you put in that PS. I thought for a minute you were looking for a husband lol :)

    Ya Haqq!

  2. Shahrzad Says:

    Irving, No, i dont need husband anymore. Thank you!

  3. Lalla Mona Says:

    LOL I found the same in my Search Engine Terms “problems with marrying a Saudi girl” lmao

    ps. “i dont need husband anymore” HAHA why is that?

  4. Shahrzad Says:

    Lalla Mona, LOL.. You need to write a post about problems to marry a Saudi woman.
    P.S: “HAHA why is that?”; Ha ha, Just bcs i have my husband!

  5. Alloush Says:

    humm, Iranian girls are so sweet ,cute and sexy ;) , When my sister visited Asfahan, she told me that they are free as Syria, girls and boys walks together, not like the way media imaging iran, like a strict country.

    yet I prefer a Syrian girls for “my” marriage, I don’t like to marry a woman different from my region, I don’t know why, just thinking of that makes my head crazy, thinking of many issues that i have to find a solution for it.

    even in Syria, i only prefer to marry a perfect match, that’s mean, she must be, Syrian, Arabic, Muslim, Sunni.

    I know, you may think I’m not open mind, but I had terrible experience with girls who are not a match for me.

    —-
    the picture above for the Iranian girl, wow, awesome, what a sexy eyes.

  6. zios Says:

    Shahrzad, do you have phone number or address of the girl in picture? :-P … Pls send it to me while I prepare Interpol Certificates ….or arrange the tickets to Turkey :-D
    Some dreams better be only dreams ;-)

  7. Shahrzad Says:

    Alloush, Your sister is really right. Girls and boys are as free as other countries.
    Really i dont mean with this post you need to marry an Iranian girl.
    I just wanted to explain for those people who ARE in love with an Irani girl and decided to marry, how many cultural and legal problems they have!
    Of course that’s better every person gets married to who is his/her match, to have less conflict.

    Zios, the foto is poster of a movie, named as “Marriage; Iranian Style” about marriage between a non-Iranian and Iranian and its problems. That woman in the foto is an actress: “Shila Khodadad”.
    As long as you can not marry a canadian actress, you can not marry an Iranian actress too!
    So your dream better be dream..

  8. Achelois Says:

    You don’t even want to know what trash used to come in my serach items!! Glad I’m not listed anymore.
    Good post as always, Shahrzad!

  9. bbZuSh Says:

    That’s surely a long procedure, but at least, the girl is safe :)

  10. Alloush Says:

    Ok then I decided to enter the movie sphere in Iran by marrying Shila Khodadad, lol, is she married, how old is she, and by the wy, where can we find Iranian movies translated to Arabic.

  11. amal Says:

    lol so because of a FEW con artists they brought that stupid law ?! why did they not tell the familly to teach their girls not to be so naive ?!
    hmm a bit romantic and political ? is that not a bit much to ask ?
    that is so cool that in iran they want to have a girl first as a baby and when they do , they introduce her to everyone ? wow I always got from iranin culture that they love woman would you agree shahrzad?

  12. youngMuslimah Says:

    interesting post! there are many probs in marrying a saudi woman too!!
    is that bride in the pic wearing a hijab under the tiara?

  13. Shahrzad Says:

    Achelois, looool, i recieve kind of funny things in my search Item. Yet i can not open those ideas here. :D

    bbZuSh, Yes true, yet would be good if they had some ways for couple who know each other for long time ;)

    Alloush, looool, I think the actress is 30 and something, and married. For Iranian movies you need to go to Cultural Center of Iranian embassy in Syria and ask them. When i was in Syria they were very active. They will help you.. Maybe you can find what you want. Anyway i also search here to find sites to download Iranian movie with Arabic subtitle. :)

    amal, That’s really for protect girls. Nobody can behave girl not to be stupid. Always there are stupid ones every where.
    Iranians say that a girl is who always helps parents when they are old, but a boy goes after his wife family. That’s why they prefer to have girl for first baby.

    youngMuslimah, Really there is kind of legal problems marrying saudi girls too? Ye, the bride has hijab under the tiara.. Women in Iranian movies also need to have hijab.. ;)

  14. bizbloger Says:

    unbelievable!!!
    the best online Ad, I have ever seen before, about Iranian girls!

  15. Shahrzad Says:

    bizbloger, Man baratun inja aval penglish minevisam, rastesh in entry tablighati nabud ke intori minevisid!! Mano hamsaram in moshkelat ro poshte sar gozashte budim, khastam komak konam be bandegane khoda

    It is not an Ad really. I just said the legal problems that a westerner or non-iranian can have during marring an iranian girl and that Iranian girls are not oppressed by men. I just wanted to show real place of girls in Iran!

  16. leila Says:

    After sept. 11 in Bosnia its almost the same rules..Bosnian women are also known by very good wifes (and modest too :D ), so many people want to marry Bosnian girls. I know some Arabs who came here only for that reason..We dont ask huge mahr (dowry), he doesnt have to be Richy Rich, but “needs to be understaning, almost have a political view to discuss with her, have a sincere and honest heart and abit romantic. He needs to understand her spirit “, its MUST HAVE. lool :D
    Anyway, the law now is making thigs diffiucult now, just like in Iran, but I guess its for our own good. Bosnian women are also known as soft hearted, so they fall in love easily :D

  17. Aliana Says:

    Good thing that I am not looking to get married to an Iranian girl otherwise I would have to got through that long process. lol

  18. aMmAr Says:

    I dont knw if anyone has suffered from this law more than i had suffered :P I fancy Iranian beauty very much and I was planning that out of 4 one of my wife will be an Iranian :P

    I keed I keed!!

    By the way if you cant marry an Iranian Women can we date em easily ;) . DOnt tell me their are laws for dating as well

  19. milad Says:

    salam khanom!..engar havaye inja ro bishtar az oonja darid!..va ama inke hamin ghazieye ezdevaj masihi ba mosalmoon baraye yeki az doostane pish oomad ke oon dokhtare matloobe dooste ma ba inke irani bood vali masihi bood ke albate in vaslat soorat nageref.albate bazi az mojtahed ha nazare motefaveti nesbat be in ghazie daran…

    rasti che khabar?

  20. Shahrzad Says:

    Milad, Felan ye khorde saram sholughe baraye webloge farsi. Bayad mesle inja ye hadafi ro donbale kone beharhal ;) Badam ke inja man hamash update mikonam, taghriban har ruz, vaght migire.
    In matlab ke dar morede masihi ba mosalmun nistesh ke. Dar morede ye gheyre iruni ba iruniye. Farghi nadare mosalmun ya masihi. Moshkelate ghanunisho inja tozih dadam ;)

  21. jahandost Says:

    I hope that that is not a Bollwoodesque movie. lol

  22. ummabdurrahman Says:

    Interesting information about laws and culture in your country. I guess there is a reason for it to be this way.
    I too thought you were looking for a husband. :)

  23. Shahrzad Says:

    UmmAbdurrahman, sincerely I just wanted to explain the legal and cultural problems. Not more.. I dont know why all people here got wrong msg from the entry.
    I have my husband! ;)

  24. Mandana Says:

    Thank you for this post Shahrzad. I’m so glad to find your blog. I am currently experiencing the challenges that are presented to the children in a cross-cultural marriage. So many to face, especially in today’s political climate. However, I believe very much in love. If the couple is in love, then whatever challenges they or their children face are nothing are nothing. I exist in this world because of great love between an Iranian man and an Italian woman. I’m glad that my parents were willing to overcome all of the challenges they faced. Besides, anyone who doesn’t know that Iranian women are worth those legal and cultural challenges, doesn’t deserve to marry one anyway.
    Mandana

  25. leila Says:

    c’mon people, it was sooo obvious from previous posts she is deeplyyyy in love already :D anyway, if she was looking for husband she wouldn’t write about difficulties, sah??

  26. Shahrzad Says:

    Leila, Thank you.. ;)

  27. Sumera Says:

    The laws may seem long winded but given the stupid actions of a few, its better to be safe than sorry.

  28. m anil Says:

    Dear Shahrzaad,
    So, there is no way to get a Iranian girl…
    Anyway, it is a very good post, brief but informative on many aspects.
    Thanks,

  29. Shahrzad Says:

    Sumera, Your words are true. But i think it is about kind of people who dont know each others. Anyway when they see there are kind of laws, they go to other country. Isnt it better that a girl gets married in her country, than she goes to other country, alone or with family?
    Finally all of them choose the second way, going to other country for Nikah..

    Anil, Welcome.. :)

  30. Aliana Says:

    Life is complicated.

  31. Aliana Says:

    cool, I really like the motto – na sharqi na gharbi I wish I had invented this motto :p

  32. Shahrzad Says:

    Aliana, oh really? I didnt know you know farsi. You know meaning of “Na Sharqi, Na Qarbi” ?

  33. youngMuslimah Says:

    yeah i read something abt saudi women marrying foreigners..dont remember what though..
    lol at women in hijab in the movies. waht’s the point really if you’re gonna wear tons of makeup? lol.

    i didnt real all the comments here, but bits of it. are u married? lol, i read soemthing like ‘i have my husband already’. what does that mean??

  34. Jayron Says:

    nice post:)

  35. Xalimah Says:

    Hi. Shahrazade. Interesting article. My best friend married an Irani brother last year and I always wondered about how inter-racial marriages were seen in Iran. The Khaleeji Arab countries are pretty much the same with their marriage laws, also. I personally thought it was unfair a first but having now read the historical background it makes sense.

    Thanks. Salaams.

  36. Shahrzad Says:

    Xalimah,
    Hi, salam. Inter-racial marriage is not something weird in Iran. one of my friends also who is a religious Shia got married a Sunni man years ago and now they are much in love.
    There is no legal and religious ban for marrying a sunni and shia. Maybe some families are sensitive, but that’s not bcs of shari’a or Law. That’s their personal opinion.

    There are cities in Iran that population is sunni shia both (such as Mahabad, Talesh, Gonbad and some provinces) And kind of marriages happen.
    The only condition for a muslim girl is her man be muslim too. Nobody even ask what sect he is or something else. Even for filling forms or something, they just mention word “Islam” for both sunni and shia, and other religions next to them.
    Even name of religion doesnt get mentioned in ID card, even for other religions. So you can never get who is who, until he utters by own!

  37. hijab Says:

    I think its great that the Iranian authorities are taking action to stop this dishonest business

  38. Shahrzad Says:

    Hijab, Welcome to my blog. It is blessing to have you here. Ye, sometimes it really helps. But not for couple who know each other enough. ;)

  39. aida Says:

    hhhhhhhheeeeee

  40. Hamid Says:

    Hi,,, Great..welldone… absolutely right…but..im indian..100 carrot muslim..she?…irani..azeri..speaks turkish..we were in love……first I opposed her invitation to iran..but I wondor…y i didnot have her for my life…i had been her country but i never met her..somehow..now the probloms are all as u said.. solution..i want she live in dubai with me..noway..bcoz she says..unable to travel abroad without guardians approval..they would never agree as they r tabrizians…..life is fool……..bye

  41. dan Says:

    I have a SERIOUS question…anyone know what the government of Iran would do if I married an Iranian girl in another land (Turkey) and then came to Iran to live with her in our life together as a married couple? I am an American and have converted to Islam already!

  42. Shahrzad Says:

    Dan, Of course there is no problem for you. I am Iranian and i did marry a westerner. You should not be worried. I know Iranians who got married to Americans too ;)

  43. Stephen Says:

    Dan, I am extremely interested in knowing what happens with you and this Iranian girl. I am planning to meet my fiancee on Kish island sometime in December and have also already converted to Shi’a Islam. I’m wondering if I can even marry her on Kish or we must meet in Turkey and obtain a visa through a consulate there. My hope is to bring her to the U.S. eventually and I am going through a tangle of research right now to see which visa could help us more (k1 for fiancees? k3 for married couples?) and exactly what I’m up against. If you or anybody wants to contact me about this kind of thing, I’m stephenpitkin@yahoo.com

  44. Stuart Says:

    Hi, I am Englishman planning on marrying Iranian woman. I already converted to Islam. We plan to get married in Iran and i would like to know what are the steps to take for citizenship after the marriage as i would like to live in Iran for a while before applying to go to England with her….and there lies another question. As England does not recognise Islamic marriages can i marry her in an English ceremony too, after that does anyone know what the procedure is for taking her to England for visiting my family etc. Will being married to me make her visa application easier or are there other unforseen problems.

    Would appreciate any help you can give me on any of these matters or other points i may have missed.

    (In advance, i appreciate and thany you for all your help)

  45. Stranger Says:

    Is it true that an Iranian woman can not travel without occupancy, if before marriage with family and after marriage with husband. Can anyone help me

  46. Lyn sam Says:

    How about foreigner girl marry with iranian guy? do we have problem as well

  47. Shahrzad Says:

    Lyn, There is no problem for foreigner girl marry with iranian guy. They dont have kind of problem to wait for 3 month. They just marry in a minute.

  48. zblacktulip Says:

    its not just non iranian marrying iranian girl. its really difficult for an iranian to marry someone outside of iran and to leave the country. europe isn’t so difficult, but america! my brother who has american citizenship is married to an iran ian girl. he left her to come to america for 7 months. 7 whole months they didn’t see eachother, except for two weeks in turkey. he tried so hard to get her at least a visa to come to america! it didn’t work, and in the end it did nothing but affect their marriage and make them both suffer. now they’ll probably never come to america. another of my friends who is american convert to islam and who is living in iran with his wife, can’t get a visa for his wife either. and his family has only met her once in dubai and this past summer in italy. they can’t go to america because the american govt won’t give her an american visa.

  49. Lyn sam Says:

    but another problem come is foreign womenwho marry with iran man will lose her origin nationality once the marriage is registered. Even the future children cannot have dual citizenship.
    Iranian goverment so stricth,isn’t it? They dont give me choise…now i really confuse to marry him..

  50. sophia Says:

    Hi im sophia from iran its my question why our embassy in other countries dont give visit visa for single men they give just bussiness visa

  51. kian Says:

    im parizad from shiraz i think the basic problem that never figure out is not attention to our ruls that exist in our socity.mrsshahrazaad i want get permission from you to express your site by showing your photo from rainy tehran,by expressing your site besides photo.plz email me to understand you get me permission.tank you.

  52. AMIR Says:

    I been in love with one tehrani girl and we wanna marry after being in relatin for 3years. i only got to know her true face once last feburary i vistied Tehran, she was big lier and cheater and unfathfull. i just came back to my country eyes full with tears.i do understand there are good and bad people everywhere but I’d request to everybody try marry in ur own country and ur own culture.

  53. AMIR Says:

    i forgot to explain above the girl which i was in love i never knew that she is divorced and besid that she had 4 girl friends all of them were married twice and divorced and living alone enjoying with their Mahrey, money.

  54. assemkhan Says:

    oh man that sounds tragic, it means the guys in Iran are useless and the girls are brainless

  55. coolguymuslim Says:

    wow, you learn something new everyday!

  56. sahra Says:

    mr amir which country you live? its necessery i add that i know a pakistani man after four years relationship he lied me he was so big liar in end of last year i found he was liar i didnt see him that day he told me i can take iran visa i didnt see him again i just know him with phone and online talking every day many times he called that i love you very much im glad i never trust on him a day he must go to take iran visa he go to darak

  57. Unique Muslimah Says:

    wow, long process!

  58. Muhammad shah Says:

    i like very much iranian girls

  59. rationalpsychic Says:

    Do you have Iranian female friends in Minnesota, USA? Between the ages of 29 and 45 who are looking to date an American man who will appreciate them and demonstrate respect? Ah, well, it’s a beautiful daydream.

    I do love your snow photographs as well. Very good posts. May I put your site on my blogroll?

    Yours,
    Barrie

  60. Shahrzad Says:

    rationalpsychic, Welcome to my blog. Thank you. Of course you can add my weblog to your blogroll :)

  61. Carole Says:

    I am an American. I married an Iranian man in 1964. I automatically became an Iranian citizen as well as an American citizen. I had to have an Iranian birth certificate and an Iranian passport to go to Iran. We moved there early 1970′s. As long as I was in Iran, they disregarded my American citizenship. My American passport stated that as long as I was living in Iran I would be under the laws of Iran and the U.S. wouldn’t necessarily help me if I ran into trouble. I lived there until November 1978 when my son and I moved back to the U.S. My husband followed later. We were concerned about the revolution coming and we didn’t know how things would go for Americans. I love my husband’s family and my mother-in-law (now deceased) and my sister-in-law are WONDERFUL. I love them so much! I really got along well with all of his very large family and miss those that are still in living in Iran. I have frequent contact by phone with the ones who now live in different parts of the U.S. In response to the person who said you lose your citizenship when you marry an Iranian, my experience as an American has been that I did not lose my American citizenship and my son has dual citizenship.

  62. Shahrzad Says:

    Carole, Your story really touched me. I can say how you felt at the time you left Iran. I am happy you have good memories from your mom and sis in law. I hope someday you again travel to Iran. It is not that bad Media says.. And you’re right. Nobody loses his previous nationality after marriage.

  63. Jeff Says:

    Please marry your kind from your own countries! We don’t want women shortage in any particular country for those that live there.

  64. Shahrzad Says:

    Jeff, All humans have been created from one man and one woman and there is no person who be superior to others bcs of his race.
    LoVe doesnt need to take permission from this or that person, doesnt know arrogance and haughtiness and doesnt mind conditions like race, religion or nationality. It happens unexpectedly..

  65. sunny Says:

    Dear Shahrzad,
    I’m Indian and I’m love with a beautiful Iranian girl. I’m Hindu and she’s muslim. We want to get married, so I have to convert to islam. Can you tell me about the procedure? Do I have to change my name? Also is it allowed for me to practise my religion after converting?

  66. delshad Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,
    i’m a persian man,36, live in Israel. i’m a filmmaker.
    there is a big persian community in Israel.
    right now i work on a movie that tells a story of a persian family that live in a small religious village in Israel.
    i like a lot your blog. were do you live?
    hope to be in touch.
    salam. shalom.

  67. Shahrzad Says:

    sunny, you need to go with her to a mosque in the place you are, and the Imam of mosque will completely explain for you. You are not forced to change your name if it doesnt have any paganised meaning, like name of idols.
    Converting is not a game. When you convert (to every religion), you almost change part of your lifestyle. It has its way of worshiping God. So there is no way you practice your previous religion. Think and study enough before you convert.

    delshad, Salam/Shalom. Thank you for your comment. I know there is a big Iranian community in Jerusalem. I heard Iranian jews in Israel miss Iran so much and they love to come back. But they’re afraid. That’s true?

  68. Roshni Says:

    Hi I am an Iranina and in love with a hindu man. Its been 3.5 years and its so hard for him to understand how certain things I am not allowed to do – like sex before marriage, even kiss cos I do beleive in being pure when i marry him. Can u please shade light on this area. And he says that what he says is final – no questions asked cos he is the man after all but Iranian women are no so behind like women 100 years ago. Is muslim woman not allowed to question her man – if she does then does this mean she is not a good woman??\

  69. Shahrzad Says:

    Roshni,
    “Is muslim woman not allowed to question her man?”
    In Islam marriage is at first kind of friendship and companionship. Not a ruling system. So you’re allowed to ask any question you want. I know that Indian culture sometimes comes to be very patriarch as well.
    I think if he really loves you, has to understand your limitations. And you need to explain for him that what you want is all a secure and full of love marriage and all what he wants will come the best in your sacred married life.
    It’s very difficult situation you’re facing with. I know what you mean.
    From what you said, You’re good and pure woman, Rushni. He should appreciate you for you’re untouched. That’s the least right for you as woman to want a secure and friendly marriage. No woman needs a boss at home. ;)

  70. sunny Says:

    Shahrazad,
    We are both open-minded about our religious beliefs. I don’t have a problem with Islam because Hinduism recognizes every human’s right to his or her own beliefs and own path to God. So when I convert to islam, its more of adding something rather than deleting what existed before. I’m led to believe that most persians share this view in spite of the western media trying to portray islam as intolerant of other religions. Any thoughts?

  71. Zeeshan Says:

    right guys..am leaving next month to get married to an irani girl..lets see what do i have to go through …wish me luck!!:)))Pakistan-Iran friendship Zindabad

  72. farshad Says:

    very good

  73. Teb Says:

    Dear Shahrzad ,
    In one word your website is “wonderful”,I wish I visited it before being cheated with a hindu Canadian guy ,who pretended he is in love with me and to prove his claim, he promissed to take any neccessary legal and religious actions to reach me.For instance , he visited me and my family to show his honesty and wanted to convert to Islam in his next visit, But recently I received a mail from him noting he is a cheap guy to cheat me for about 2 years and he does not deserve me , he has another one in his life.I was shocked and so regertful for myself.This event taught me a good lesson .I recommand Iranian girls to be careful about marring foreigner guys.
    All the bests,
    Teb

  74. Stephen Says:

    Hello Shahrzad,

    Thanks for all the useful information!! I had a question about getting married to and Iranian woman in a country like Turkey. Do you have any idea that if we do that, would there be any problem for her to get back into Iran when she goes to visit her family?

    Thanks again for the wonderful article.

    Stephen

  75. Shahrzad Says:

    Teb, Thank you so much for your compliment and i felt sad to read about your failure in love. May you find your “true” love in the future soon. :)

    Stephen, Of course she can easily come back to Iran. I had been adviced by Iranian ministry of fareign affairs to go to turkey and marry to my non-iranian husband. For it takes almost 10 days and then the couple can come back to Iran. :)

  76. Stephen Says:

    Dear Shahrzad,
    Thank you so much! you dont know how relieved I am:) actually I am in USA and she is in Iran. I would be trying to bring her to USA after our marriage, if not we will go to another country. So I was wondering that after she is in USA, and she would go to visit Iran, would there be questions, at the airport… because our marriage would not be recognized, and also single women cannot leave Iran without parents escort.
    Thanks a lot again!!
    Stephen

  77. Stephen Says:

    I also wanted to add the question that do I need to change my religion to get married in Turkey? Is that marriage recognized in Iran?
    Regards,
    Stephen

  78. Shahrzad Says:

    Welcome. If she is muslim, and you want your marriage be recognised by Iran, you have to also convert to Islam. But for any other religion – if she be christian, zoroastrian or jew- the Iranian recognised marriage is based on the religion’s laws. :)

  79. Stephen Says:

    She is Muslim. I dont need my marriage to be recognized in Iran and I dont want to change my religion too. My only doubt was that when we get married in another country, and she lives in USA with me, would there be any problem for her to get back to Iran for a visit?
    Thanks!!

    Stephen

  80. Shahrzad Says:

    For her, there is no problem, for she has Iranian passport too anyway. But for you, if your marriage doesnt be recognised, you need to take visa and it is alittle difficult to take visa for Iran. Not bcs of being American or something. For any other country too.

  81. Stephen Says:

    Thanks for all your help. God bless you:)

  82. B.M. Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,
    You have a wonderful website and lots of informative articles. I had a question for you. Are non married Iranian muslim girls allowed to leave Iran for traveling to another country? Also, if they get married to a non Iranian man in another country, and get citizenship of that country, would there be any questions asked upon her return for visiting, like how did you get citizenship of that country etc?
    I would be grateful if you could answer my question.
    Thanks,
    BM

  83. Shahrzad Says:

    B.M., Hi, thank you for your comment. Yes, a single Iranian girl can travel to other countries alone. She has her separated passport and she can take passport by own. But a married woman must have permission from her husband. So she can take passport by own too.
    There is NO restriction for them after coming back to Iran and nobody asks them any question. Even nobody ask her non-iranian husband any question.
    If they have an Iranian official marriage, then her husband even doesnt need to take a visa to come to Iran. But if their marriage doesnt be officially known by Iran, husband has to take visa. But again for that Iranian woman, there is no problem.

  84. ajp127 Says:

    hello sharazad,I came across this website and not a moment to soon,I am an american and I am in love with an iranian girl,what is the best way for us to get married outside of iran so that I can bring her back to the usa with me,I love her so much,I have never felt this way about anybody before,thanks in advance for all your help

  85. Shahrzad Says:

    ajp127, Welcome. May you can reunite soon and live with love happily ever after. :)

  86. ajp127 Says:

    shahrzad,have you ever heard the song “shahrzad”? by a old band called rennesiance(don’t think I spelled that right)it is a wonderful song!,on another note could you direct me to a web site that can translate farsi into english? or vice versa,I have found many but they do not seem to work right-1001 nights

  87. seemey Says:

    Jeff i agree with uu i mean iam a pakistani girl they dont tlk much bout em wonder why aint that we aint sharif an dat.

  88. Stranger Says:

    Hi Shahrzad

    I hear in real life,you are a nice person . is that true ?

  89. Shahrzad Says:

    Stranger, Hi, I am just me ;)

  90. Ahmad Says:

    Hi, I did not read the contenant of your article, but marry from Irani girl is disaster, specially the if she is Kuwaity citizin like me. asking for a lot of money. after few months she get a divorce from the court with also a lot of money.

    They called MAHAR and MUAAKHAR. I think you know what I am talking about. Its againest the islams rules.
    Thanks

  91. mahshad Says:

    shahrzad 2 az khodemooni

  92. leila60 Says:

    Their hot and shiny eyes, their soft skin and loyal behavior is well known. marrying a persian girl is every man dream. they are beautiful like princess even under scarf…

  93. james Says:

    I am an american living in Bahrain and I have met an iranian woman I would like to marry. It seems impossible from what I see here in this blog and from the research I have done. Any ideas?

  94. Muhammad Tariq Says:

    There is many posts I mean replies.but I am not agree to all these.coz a true lover dont break the hearts.in 1999 I haad a chance to marry an Iraian girl she was from rich family of Tehran .I told her honestly I am not a rich man .I am a poor man having a small busines in Pakistan.and now I am here for marketing of my goods.But my visa was a visitor.I like Iranian people they are polite,kindhearted and caring.Now I have decided that I must marry in Tehran coz I am lonely and I shal get a benefit from this marriage that I shall have my own busines of Rice and China products.I know my Pakistani friends who have marriad there they says their wives are very pretty , caring and kindhearted.These friends have no complaint of their wives.But in pakistan we are facing much problems maaking marriage.My wife was dead due to birthing of baby in 2000.still I am single and nw I have decided that I shall setup my biz in Tehran and I shall marry to any woman there as per Islamic rules and regulation either on shia thought of school or Hanafi.
    All people are not equal and all pople are not flirt.
    thanx a lot to reading my words.
    thanking You,
    Very Truely Yours,
    Muhammad Tariq.

  95. Joseph Says:

    James
    if you love her and she loves you what is the problem.I doubt you are going to live in Iran after you get married. Take the moment, enjoy the life together. although I am Persian, one of the biggest regrets that I have is that I never married or met the right Persian girl. If she is the right one seize the moment.
    Good luck
    Joseph

  96. rodney Says:

    i am in love with a girl from sari mazandaran..i do love her very much..i plan to marry her..i pray all happens..ensha
    Allah..i love her and i need her in my life..she is my heart..fateme dooset daram..i am learning farsi very well.i am so happy to have met her being that u.s.a. and iran are hostile countries..i dont care i love this woman and she is going to give me child…thanks for your sight it has been helpful..where can i find more help for my situation? i am latino man born in the u.s.a. who is in love with a woman from sari mazandaran iran

  97. AbuSinan Says:

    As a white American guy married to a Saudi woman I know the problems well. If you do not have “wasta” (connections) or “reschwa” (bribes) it is very hard to get permission to marry.

  98. Shiraz Qureshi Says:

    Salam Shahrzad. Che tori? Khobi?
    Well very interesting to read posts on this blog. Let me add some more. While studying engineering in Sweden I made many Irani friends. Both girls and boys, from Tehran, Tabriz, Isfahan, Shiraz etc. I Learned Persian, as my language, Urdu, already derive its vocabulary from this language. As a boy I was naturally attracted towards girls. I found them to be true friends BUT not companions.

    All of them were reluctant to show any affection to become a companion. The reason was the perception related to my countrymen. Iranis are liberal, non religious, non practicing, modern people, as far as I know through my contacts with them. For them religion is an entity forced on them by the mullahs and government. But they used to look at people from Pakistan as very religious, practicing and traditional people, though the story is different in reality as their is no pressure or orders from government or religious institutions. I myself practice religion but not deeply religious.

    I found another interesting reason of this distraction. Iranis look at Arabs as the one who have destroyed their traditions and culture. True. My family name is among them. I think it also proved to be a bad point for me.

    Language was another barrier, though I learned Persian due to reasons cited above, but still it was a hinderence in establishing a relationship. I knew their parents, met them in Sweden, met their siblings and everything was good untill this stage but nothing further.

    I realised that Irani girls were not interested in money or stature or social standing rather, they were interested in making it with someone of their own. Someone from Iran. It is a good trait but it also shows the confinement in a circle. Even now when I have completed studies, settled on a very handsome earning job in Norway, living alone and quite away from any hassles, their is no interest from any of them.

    Mixing cultures and traditions is good when they are not very different from each other but keeping yourself in a circle and nothing else is not the order of the day. It was in opposition to the liberalism and moderation but it was there and I experienced it.

    But the Persian beauty was awesome. Much like as we have in northern areas of Pakistan. And girls from Shiraz were apt at poetry and literature too. I have heard about that but found it myself to be true.

    Khush basi, pirouz bashi.
    Eradatmand e shooma,
    Shiraz Qureshi

  99. Aimar Says:

    Hey, i met this realy nice iranian girl while i was on holiday in iran and we kind of hit it of, so i decided to marry the girl and we agreed on that. the problem is when i got back to london most of my friends, including the iranian ones told me that iranian girls are kind of “and im just quoting here” whores who sleep around quite often yet act as if theyr virgins. i know this implies to most iranians in london but i thought it would be diffrent over there and whats worrying is it was kind of easy to get girls over there. i realy like this girl but now im realy cofused as even some iranians are telling me not to trust her especialy as she is still a univerity student. so to what extent is this true and what the hell should i do? anyone, Shahrzad. P.s havnt married yet, still want to, but having some serious second thoughts.

  100. Aimar Says:

    Forgot to mention im half iranian but dont have the slightest clue how things are, the culture or even the language, although i do now about the history and arts but thats not realy helpful.

  101. SANJAY KANOTRA Says:

    HI MANDANA !
    I was going through lot of blogs but found yours quite sensible and matured. you r absolutely correct for love there is no boundries and if the couple is indeed in love they can overcome all the hurdles. i have read, lot of people were talking about marriage process in Iran but suppose if i rally love any Iranian girl all other things r secondry.
    i think Iranian govt. has done a wonderful job by making the marriage pricess transparent for outsider.
    i am from India that too from nortern part of the country. there are so many cases of cheating poor girls. they marry the girl quinch their lust and go away. Ii is well said that “one can easily jude how prosperous is a nation by seeing the plight of women of that country”. i think its very very true. where there is no respect for women there will be no prosperity.
    sanjay

  102. romi Says:

    hi ..i am an Indian and studying in Germany ..i met a Iranian girl and fell in love with her. I am a Hindu . i went through the all the posts and figure it out that it is not possible to marry a Iranian without change of religion. She now live in Iran . Will it be possible for her to change her religion? We want to marry , but i can’t change my religion , because of my parents pressure.Can anybody suggest, what should we do , in order to marry.

    romi

  103. khalid Says:

    I am an indian, going to marry with my iranian GF

  104. Brave Knight Says:

    Salam Aziz Shahrazad,
    I’m really so proud of ur nice & interesting website where everyone can express his love & passion to Iranian girls. Really Iranian girls like princesses even when they wear scarf & make good hijab as Leila descibed them.

    I’m also one of the guys who loves Iranian girls madly. I’m originally from Pakistan but living in Gulf country. Iranian girls are really so kind, lovely, polite, respectful, beautiful, cute & so so so sweet. I have many lovely friends in different parts of Iran. I must say that really Iranian girls deserve all the love, passion, respect, kindness & loyalty.

    Enshallah I’ll write u all later about my experiences & my stories with Iranian girls.

    God bless Iran & great girls of Iran…

    Iran-Pakistan Zindehbad..(^ _ ^)

  105. samin Says:

    i am an Iranin grl, living in iran, and from Semnan
    i am fall in love with an indian, muslim boy, and we are In love almost 3 years,
    we are planning to meet on this month to take a very serious decission about our life so
    after i read this articale..i am little worried, so i have some few doubts to ask u…sorry to disturb u..!!,
    If i marry a forigner(Indian) and take that countries citizenship..what will happend to my iranian citezenship,
    Did we have to get any special permission to doTurkey marrage.and If my husband wanna work in iran, is there any problem.after marrage my husbund wanna work and Live in Iran is there any problem??? my sweet love found ur site and tell me i write for u this letter
    “please i am really expecting your valuable replay and advice”

  106. Shahrzad Says:

    Samin, Shoma bayad ba “vezarate umure kharejeh” va hamchenin “Edareye kolle Atba’e khareji” tamas begirid and joz’iyat ro az unha beporsid.
    Tu in site mitunid shomareye tamaseshun ra peida konid:
    http://ketabeavval.ir/

  107. Ian Says:

    Ive been going out with an Iranian woman that i love, i am Canadian living in Dubai.
    She really would love to marry , i am in no rush .
    I know how much it would help her to obtain a visa to work freely in Dubai.
    This is an odd situation
    Im a bit confused as my life is just taking off and i dont want to rock my boat.
    Im in to traveliing and with marrage that lifestyle goes whether you like it or not.
    What to do…..this is my comment

  108. rationalpsychic Says:

    Thank you for your visits to my blog. I was hoping a post on Hafiz’s poetry would draw at least a few Iranian people.

    Please leave a comment–whether positive or negative.

  109. ioni Says:

    hi, i have a question for you and i will be happy if you answer me…. it is true that now, if an iranian boy of 20 years old wants to leave the country, he must get married first? thank you for ur time//

  110. Shahrzad Says:

    ioni, of course No!

  111. ioni Says:

    thank you very much for ur answer…. tashakor…
    i meet an iranian boy, and he tells me he cant leave iran cuz of iranian lows…. that he can leave iran 99% but 1% he is not sure..all cuz of iranian lows…n stg about that marriage problem, which to me, seem so stupid…
    tashakor again
    All the best

  112. ioni Says:

    your blog its great!! Man khoshhalam az didan shoma :)

  113. KT Says:

    Hi samin ,

    My case is same like you.
    I am an Indian guy and marrying with my iranian girl friend in Iran.
    At this moment, i am in Iran.

  114. tony Says:

    salam shahrzad,I have found my way back to your web page once more with a heavy heart in tow,I have been trying so hard to get my iranian sweetheart here(usa)non of the lawyers I see will give me any definate answers,everything seems like one big gamble,my love fateme and I do not have money to just give away and that’s exactly what this whole immigration lawyer situation seems like to me,there is no certainty that she will get the fiance visa and this is several thousand dollars a pop,I feel like defecting from this country somtimes,I’ve been thru a lot in my life but I must say that this is by far the most frustrating thing I’ve ever had to deal with,I hope I don’t have a heart attack from all the stress this is bringing me,forgive me for venting but I just don’t understand why they make the process so confusing and difficult,I have had other iranian nationals tell me that they were denied a visa because the person they were dealing with that day was in a bad mood,this is peoples lives they are having a profound effect on,there does not seem to be one ounce of fairness and organization in this whole process,I am getting really angry about all this,I just want to put my fist thru the wall,please if anyone out there is going thru somthing like this post a message and I will include you in my prayers and hope you would include me in yours,I think he is the only one that is going to bring us together,he will make plain sense out of all they’re confusing red tape and lies,again please forgive me shahrzad for my ranting but I have no one to talk to who cares and I know that you understand how heartbreaking somthing like this can be,god will bless

  115. bijan Says:

    dont have any problem. he can leave iran if you invite him with visa.

  116. bijan Says:

    what i can leave iran and work inside my friend

  117. Rizwan Khan Says:

    i want to the visit of Iran.
    but i donot know how i will get the visa of Iran?
    anyone can guide or help me?
    i shell be very thankful to this regard.

    Rizwan Ullah Khan
    Pakistan

  118. soumya chowdhury Says:

    Hi I am a boy from India and i have a girl friend who is iranian and i want to marry her..

    can i marry her.I am not muslim neither i practice any religion.

    Thanks,

    Soumya

  119. auliyanur Says:

    alas …so much for my dream of getting married to an iranian girl..lol..

  120. halfnhalf Says:

    A Persian girl marring an Indian? this is a first time ive heard about thing about this.
    WTF? Can she be that foolish or desperate? How is her life going to improve? What good is your Indian passport going to do for her? Where are you two going to live? What will her family or most others think inside Iran? Im sure the Indians would be envious, but certainly not the other way around.

    Whats her phone number. I’m sure i can 100% brings some sense to her.

    How did you make her fall in love? Give her the hard premarital nookie in bed and make her squirm around with orgasmic delight which she has not felt?

    Just because we call this love? People are capable of loving again or others if they open their heart or mind.

    Am I offending anyone?
    GOOD!
    does it sound like I care? I’ll say it like it is.

    Oh yea, one last thing. its a fact Islam is evil. Satans ultimate grip on human-kind. it all about suppression to control people and society. Look what going on.

    Im marring my Iranian soulmate. She insist that i don’t convert. I wouldn’t anyway. i literally would rather die. we are both willing to die for each other.

  121. halfnhalf Says:

    Im with you Tony. and I hear you. Id like to throw my citizenship down the trash also. but its not so simple we can just be free birds. Again… Politics and Control. Its just a bunch of stupid old men bickering it out. It makes me want to dedicate my life to make the world a better place and to help people. or to do something unthinkable big and shock people, just to make a statement or make a change. This is how i feel, but thinking with reason and rational, I guess we should just take it up the…

  122. aida Says:

    hi every one… ijust know that the bad memory of love is every where ,in all of the world. we just have to keep our eyes open and just learn

  123. sudhi Says:

    hi
    I am sudhi from India. This is a nice blog having useful information. Praying for everybody who is in love. HE may help us to be with our soul mate forever. Pray for me too please

  124. praveen Says:

    dear freinds
    i am praveen from india, from last few couple of months i have benn engage with a irani girl, infact i love her more than my life and infact she loves me too, i have a dream about marrying that irani girl but i dont know what will happen just because of distance, religion, or culture i dont want to loose her i want to be her husband and can do anything for her she is my life and my wife and noone can stop me for getting her
    please tell me honestly if there anybody who really fall in love ever, i will need help in this matter

  125. sudhi Says:

    Hi Praveen, how are you, hope you are fine. I am also in love with an Iranian girl. I am from India. I would like to hear more from you. Hope you will reply my comment
    Bye, Take Care

  126. mehrdad Says:

    salam doroste kheyli dir khondam ama khoshhalam kasani hastan ke mitonan az farhang va adabo rosome ma defa konan

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  128. Khurram Pirzada Says:

    Hi …. I am in love with Iranian girl, and in our country there is no such stupid requirements from government that they need certificate of character to get married — what state has to do with the individual matter of two people?? Very stupid indeed.

    I read your top post – do you seriously think that it was a solution – specially if that mischief was carried out by Iranian boys?? WAOW – what a solution.

    Anyways, I have found that I will invite my girl over my country and we get marry there, and we can get our marriage registered with Iranian system.

    BTW: I was in Iran sometime ago for this same reason to prepare for permission for marriage. And through using various local references in Foreign Ministry, the division that handles such cases, told me (in his honest tone) that I should be prepared for a year or more delay. To me, that was last straw on camel’s back. I decided there and then – stupid government, stupid laws. I am not going to wait for so much time :)

  129. hesam Says:

    You are honestly; I wish you are good and happy for all the time

  130. revmanny Says:

    again, very enlightening…

    thank you so much for your heartfelt posts…

    one love,
    –reverend manny

  131. Marcy Says:

    I have been going out with an older guy from Iran Theran, for 2 years, and living together 2 years, we currently reside in usa, both are american citizen. what is the chance if I goto Iran with him, nor=t as a wife, but as a girlfriend??
    I am not from Iran, neither I’m not Muslim, but he is Muslim. I am 36 years old and he is 47 yars old.

  132. Koen Says:

    I’m Belgian and last september I met a wonderful Iranian girl in Turkey. We met at the hotel during summer holiday. We got very soon in touch with eachother, I really fell in love with her. So I decided to pay her a visit in november. Between september and November we had everyday contact by phone or messenger. She really gave me the feeling that we were serious. I arrived in tehran on nevember 4th and yes there she was, my Persian beauty. She was there with here mother. We had a wonderful time for the next 10 days. She had an appartement just for herself, so we could enjoy day and night. I had several conversations with her father about marriage, so we had a futher planned. The day I left she was heartbroken but we had made plans for our future. Next step she was going to visit me in Belgium. When I returned home and checked my emails late at night, I became crazy when she wrote that she was not going to continue the relationshap, without further comment.
    I tried and tried to reach her and finally I could get in touch with her. I asked for an explanation. She told me that we would never be a match because I did not bring enough presents from my country for her and her family. She told me aswell that I didn’t buy her enough things once I was there. She told me Iranian boys are used to do those things, because of their culture. I was confused, and still are. Is this the way Iranian girl act ? Expecting us as foreigners to come to their country to please them with gifts and money ? Meanwhile I found out that she is not that honest as she seemed to be, and she’s not afraid to tell several lies?
    Please some comment by Iranian girls about this issue.
    Thank you

  133. Shahrzad Says:

    Koen, It’s funny, bcs there is not such a costum or tradition as bringing too many gifts etc. On the other hand, it’s not Iranian culture that a girl has sex freely with a guy without him being her husband. So you can’t trust such a girl. This girl maybe was just a liar and b***h. ;)

  134. Koen Says:

    Dear Shahrzad,
    thank you for your response, you just confirmed what I was afraid of. Nevertheless I still prefer an Irainian girlfriend/wife, because quote :”Their hot and shiny eyes, their soft skin and loyal behavior is well known. Marrying a persian girl is every man dream. They are beautiful like princess even under scarf…” end of quote.
    I just need to find one that I can trust. Any suggestions, mail me monstro900@hotmail.com
    Best regards,
    Koen

  135. Shahrzad Says:

    Koen, this quote is something that my Dad in law says always..

  136. Koen Says:

    Shahrzad,
    that’s my I’m so attracted by them. To me they are the most enchanting women in the world…

  137. Mike Says:

    I am British, and I worked in Tehran. I wondered why the Iranian men looked old and tired (more than other cultures). Then I met the most amazing woman of my life… she is Iranian, and we are getting married. But getting married has created many many many problems, issues, difficulties and so on…..

    now I know why Iranian men look so old and tired!

    lol!

  138. Shahrzad Says:

    Mike, I know what you mean about some wrong parts of culture.
    My husband did not face much issue anyway. Maybe bcs we used to decide together first and then inform families for respect. About everything, from the plan of marriage to celebrations etc.. Most of the time they are families who make problems and issues.\

    About Iranian men being old, that’s bcs nowadays Iranians have to work more than two shifts to pay for their life, esp in megacapital Tehran with very stupid high prices for a little house. Salaries are so law. Also there is not as much enterntainment as you get in other countries. People do not have time even to pay a visit to relatives.. Unfortunately.

  139. asal Says:

    If one Iranian girl marry a hindu guy & they register their marriage in India , can they visit Iran without any problem?I mean will Iranian goverment creat problem for them ?

  140. Kashaf Says:

    HI. thanks for ur information.

    I am working in duabi, I am in shiraz for one project from last 6 to 7 month.
    actullay i am in love with one Irani girl, i want to marry her. before i don’t know about these problems. now i have to think again to get marry her. may be we will be friends only forever.

    One thing i agree is that irani girls are so so beautiful & friendly .
    I think that is the reason why fell in love with that irani girl. i realy love her & her also love me.
    but i dont know what will be the end of our love.

  141. Roger Bracken Says:

    well my story is bit different i met my irani girl on the net on 23rd dec 2003 initially we were just friends but later we knew its love i must say i came to know the true meaning of love frm her we still are in love i also noticed 1 thing in this article: both of them need to pass a long process and give some documents to prove their honesty. which i dont agree cos i feel love needs no proof to prove urself wht iam trying to say is tht love has no boundaries and as they say in love i will do anything for u, so guys if u love ur her for real y ru affraid of these process

  142. Sam Says:

    Hello Shahrazad,

    Im a big fan of your blog btw ;)

    My story is that ive fallen in love with an Iranian Women, and we are currently engaged. The procedure you mentioned for marriage seems very complex :-( Do you know if there is a quicker alternative? Is it possible to get married in a different country and have it registered quickly in Iran instead of getting married in Iran and going through this lenghty process?

    Also my second question is slightly off-topic. Im lebanese, ive heard that some Iranians do not like Arabs. Its also my understanding that Some iranians dont consider Lebanese as Arabs. How much of this statement is true? will i encounter any criticism of being a Lebanese married to an Iranian when i visit Iran?

    Sorry for the questions. Thanks alot!

  143. Shahrzad Says:

    Sam, mabrook.
    This post explain for you that now many of these conditions are done just by girl’s request: http://shahrzaad.wordpress.com/2008/10/27/no-problem-to-marry-iranian-girl/

    So there is not much issue now for marrying your fiance. Btw, Iranians and Arabs intract alot and they marry inside together so much. You should not be worried for that. Iranians love Arabs, esp those of Lebanon.. :)

  144. Sam Says:

    Thanks, Thats very reassuring :)

  145. Ravi Says:

    Hi Shahrzad

    Thanks for ur useful website.
    Im an indian (Hindu) who is married an iranian girl 1 year back now we want to register our marriage in Iranian consulate in India.We have already asked them the procedure they have told us to make some documents ready & send it to consulate by DHL post then they will send it to Iran to get approval from Iranian goverment & it will take 1-2 months time.I just want to know is it the only way or there are other alternatives also to make it fast & I also want to know ,wether goverment will approve it 100% or there are chances to get refused by them.

  146. Unique Muslimah Says:

    Very interesting info here! It’s a shame that a few crazy, greedy guys had to spoil it for the girls and guys who are genuinely interested in getting married.

  147. Jack Says:

    Hi Shahrzad, nice post. Sorry to be naive, but I wonder how you got to know what other people are searching for? I am lost about the “search engine terms” you mentioned.
    Also, it’s nice to see countries opening up a bit allowing inter-nation marriages. I never saw that as a problem. What’s a bigger barrier is differences in religions than nations. I wish people could let that go too, because under the blanket of every religion, there are nice and beautiful people.

  148. prairiedust Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,

    I was born and raised in the U.S. to a secular Iranian muslim dad and American christian mom. I believe my mother was never forced to convert to Islam, as they married before the revolution. They never forced their religion on their kids but thought that we should decide for ourselves. I grew up very accepting of others’ beliefs, and while I do believe in god I suppose, I am not religious at all.

    I’m dying to go to Iran for the first time and am currently in the process of securing my Iranian passport, but as I’m seriously dating my Korean-American (also non-religious) boyfriend, I imagine a time when we may want to go together. I know he will have to get a visa, and it seems like it’d be difficult for us to travel around together as ‘friends’.

    If we get married here in the U.S. and want to be recognized as a married couple in Iran, would he have to convert to Islam? Do I HAVE to say I’m muslim? What are the implications of saying I’m Christian? Or Non-religious? This is a big fear of mine for some reason, I feel like any answer could bring complications that I don’t understand. Btw, I have a typically muslim family name. Thank you for your advice.

  149. Shahrzad Says:

    prairiedust, You can easily travel to Iran alone once you get your iranian passport. Nobody asks you about your religion or everything. Your religion is issued based on your father’s. Based on Iranian law, you’re considered as born muslim, even if your father was not practising but he is born muslim too.

    Traveling with your boy friend to muslim countries (Except Lebanon) is somehow difficult. Maybe they allow you if you use your american passport to travel. You need to ask directly from that country’s council.

    After marriage, If your husband doesn’t convert to Islam, you both need to use your american passport (mean via American nationality) to travel to Iran and there is no problem that way, just the process of taking visa for both of you.

  150. Shahrzad Says:

    Ravi, In some countries like Turkey this process takes one week or so. But since you’re doing this via India, the only way for you is to patiently wait until end of the process. If they didnt say anything while taking the documents, so it will be 100% approved. No worry. :)

  151. Shahrzad Says:

    Thank you Unique and Jack for your comments :)

  152. prairiedust Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,

    Thanks for your reply. I have talked to the Iranian consulate and was told many times that b/c my dad is an Iranian citizen, so am I, and I cannot go to Iran on a visa. That’s why I’m getting a passport.

    I’m planning on going to Iran with my siblings, seeing some family, and traveling around. I’ve been told that it wouldn’t be that big of a deal to have my boyfriend come to Iran, if he is invited by my Iranian family in order to get a visa more easily. But I’m wondering how easily we could walk around the streets together, go sightseeing together or in a group with my family, travel in a car together? I know we would have to stay in separate hotel rooms if we go to other towns. I’ve been told that lots of people do this, but what do you think?

    If we do someday get married, I guess we would just continue with the same arrangements (him getting invited by family, staying separately if we travel, etc.), unless we have kids, at which point I guess he’ll have to convert in order for my children to be legally recognized? Even though they are not eligible to be Iranian citizens?

  153. Shahrzad Says:

    prairiedust , Welcome. There is actually no problem for you walking in the streets, traveling around Iran with your boyfriend. Once you get to come to iran, you will see many Iranians with their boyfriends and girlfriends walking around.

    If your family invite him, you easily can come to Iran together.
    As you said, if you want to stay in hotel somewhere, you can not stay in the same room with your boyfriend.
    And yes, for your kids, he has to convert.

    Btw You can check these pages of Iranian ministry of foreign affairs:
    Related to Iranian nationality (unfortunately this page is just in farsi):
    http://www.mfa.gov.ir/cms/cms/Tehran/fa/ConsularAffairs/consuli/Nationality/index.html

    Visa and passport (English): http://www.mfa.gov.ir/cms/cms/Tehran/en/ConsularAffairs/pasport/

    I am sure you will enjoy Iran and your Iranian family alot. :)

  154. Pasha Says:

    I would love to marry Iranian girl but wont wait or will want to be ready for that paper process like Interpol & what so ever!

  155. Babak Says:

    Dear Shahrzad,
    I have a couple of questions. I am about to marry this Iranian girl in the U.S who is asking me for Mehrey. Now just in case couple years down the road we get divorced, according to the U.S laws she is entitled 50% of my belonging and vice versa,right? Then what happens to Mehrey? do I still need to pay her the huge money she and her family are asking me to pay?
    Thanks if you could be kind posting some answers in this regard I’d really appreciate it.
    Thank You,
    Babak

  156. Hari Says:

    Dear Shahrzad,
    Thanks for the info. Am in love with the sweetest girl on earth ,who happens to be from iran.
    Am a hindu , indian and we are planning to get married by next year god willing, but in another country.

    Once again, thanks for the info

  157. Shahrzad Says:

    Babak, sure she can not make problem for you in the US. But if she put her mahr on implementation in Iran and if you dont pay, you’ll be arrested entering the Iranian airport. Just be careful for that.

    Hari, i wish you and your fiance a very happy and fruitful marriage ever after. :)

  158. Joey Says:

    Surely before I could marry an Iranian girl I’ve got to know her before…
    I like Iranian girls… There’s something misterious in her beauty, in the way they look…
    By the way, here in Italy we’ve local laws and burocracy that make to marry a foreign girl/man more difficult than ordinary…
    But… When people are in love, what’s the problem you cannot solve? ;)

  159. sudhi Says:

    hi
    I hope you have got my mail.
    shaharzad please reply me, please

  160. Aatiff Says:

    Hi Shahrazad

    I am indian engineering working in dubai, now i am in. iran. for one project.

    I am in love with one irani girl from past 6 months. we love each other very much. At this point of time we want get marry, but when i checked ur web, i am really upset.

    I told her about these problems, now we her helpless.

    I have some question in my mind, i will be very thankful if u answer it.
    Is there any problem if we travel together as a friends inside the iran?
    Can i bring her to dubai and then get marry her?
    I really looking forward to way that we can marry and live together.

    Plz. advice me regarding this issue.

  161. james Says:

    hey everyone
    i checked this website and even don’t know why and i read all of this
    well i am an iranian and i live in iran and i want to marry a foreginer girl and i invited her once to iran she came and she went back , and i am inviting her again but we planed that when she comes , she won;t be back..and after 2 days we’ll ger married but how can i take her here for 2 years , any idea? any help? don;t know what to do

  162. sudhi Says:

    hi shahrzad,
    hope you are doing fine.
    You need not reply my mail now.
    The whole experience left a broken heart to me
    Thank GOD for everything…………..

  163. Comrade Says:

    Salam aleikum, Shahrzad! I found this page a few minutes ago, and I found your post very interesting. And it gave me a headache because I want to marry an Iranian girl and I didn’t know about all this difficulty until just now when I read that. XD

    I’m an American guy and I have a girlfriend who lives in Iran. We really love each other and we want to be together and marry, but I don’t have much money right now and I can’t go to Iran just yet. So we have to wait a little while until I can save up some money. I also haven’t converted to Islam yet, but I know I will have to do that before we can marry. But, when we DO marry… If we marry in Turkey or somewhere, will the marriage be recognized in Iran? How would we go about getting the Iranian government to recognize it? While we’re living in Iran, would a marriage that took place in Turkey provide the same benefits for us that a marriage that took place in Iran would? Would it no longer be difficult for me to enter/leave Iran whenever I want, because i’d be married to an Iranian citizen, even if the marriage took place elsewhere? Would I get all the rights that Iranian citizens have (including the right to vote, etc), and in exchange would I have to renounce my American citizenship?

    Please answer these questions, as I really badly need to know these things. :)

  164. Ashkaan Says:

    Shahrzad, nice thread!! Looking at the history of all your follow ups from the beginning of your post I have to compliment you on your improvement in your english skills. You write much better now and your better command of the english language is very evident.

  165. Shahrzad Says:

    Ashkan, thank you. That was one of purposes to make this blog. :)

  166. Venus Says:

    salam Shahrzad jan,
    I have a quick question for you…btw…beautiful site and lovely blog :)
    My question is…if you dont mind me asking…how did you and your husband meet? and how did you finally break it to your family that you two are going to get married and finally, are you happy? Im a very open minded iranian but I dont understand why inter-nation marriages by other iranians are looked down upon…at times considered Taboo…if you could explain this it will help me a great dea :) keily keily mamnoon :)

  167. Shahrzad Says:

    Venus,
    Salam :)
    Thank you for your compliment.
    I do understand why it is a taboo for some Iranians (actually mainstream). Mostly bcs Iranians are not in connection with the rest of world in person. There is visa restrictions for Iranians and also there is a kind of stereotypical propaganda by Iranian authority enforcing minds that Iranians are the best nation, they are superior to others, They are so and so, though maybe right or wrong ideas. But actually in nowadays world, people are too much mixed with each others and they live and interact internationally. While it does not happen for an isolated planet Iran under sanctions with restricted information resources for its people.

    Anyway, my husband and i met in Tehran and i didn’t have any problem for marrying him, since nationality was not a big deal for my family and his family. They f 1765

    _rted us and i am very happy with him. He is truly my soulmate..

  168. Helen Says:

    Salam,

    I am an American woman hopelessly and painfully in love with a Persian man who is in Iran. They supposedly denied my visa after flagging me for investigation and then making me give them my resume. I am an isolated woman who converted to Islam about 2 years ago because of this man and Allah sent him to me. I can walk after 10 years of immobility because of this man. He can’t leave the country because he lived in UK 8 years and returned.

    They won’t let me in and I can’t forget him or stop loving him. I don’t understand why they are doing this. I sold all my possessions in an awful economy that I worked my life for and put my houses on auction. I am losing most everything and now I can’t even marry him? I don’t know what to do.

  169. Julius Says:

    Hei everyone!
    I am from Norway. I am planning to visit Iran for the first time in my life and stay there for 2 or 3 months. My aim is to find a girl there for marriage. Could anyone tell me, what is the most effective way to search for her ? Night-clubs, ads in newspapers, or just travelling across the countryland? Would it be considered normal for an european to visit small towns or villages and go around asking lokal people if they know any unmarried girls ? I know my question must sound stupid, but that’s just a proof of my poor knowlegde of life in Iran.
    ????????
    Amazing blog though, right to the point of issue, thanks Shahrzad!!

  170. sudhi Says:

    hi
    Helen’s story is painful. Pray for her love to be fulfilled.

    Jilius, why you are that much interested in Iranian Girls? It sounds like you are ready to do any thing(of course positively) to make your dreams come true. Good luck.

    This blog is a relief to me, visiting here is something like.. yea I really feel good. Thanks Shahrzad

  171. john brightman Says:

    salam .shoma az word press estefade mikonid?

  172. Hicham Says:

    Interesting post, Shahrzaad. I think marring forigen girls became a trend in many societies and cultures due to the short-vision and narrow-minded mentalities that looks for the forigen girls/woman as source of happiness and to get wealthy.

    Of course, there are some exceptions because I don’t fall into the trap of generalising however I think it’s important that Men marry from Women of their societies as there are much common stuff among them rather than forigners.

    p.s. Look what I’ve done? It’s my 1st visit and I’m commenting on an old post :)

  173. Irum Says:

    @Helen.. i know how you feel.. being isolated from converting to Islam in usa.. im same ok listen.. why cant you consider living outside either one of your countries like turkey or malaysia or really anywhere you sound desperate for a solution and really sometimes leaving it all behind and moving toanother country is not so hard to do when you are wanting to be together.. i have not seen my husband in years and lately we are trying another solution to be together.. i wish you much peace and luck.. fe amin ALLAH

  174. Sara Says:

    Hi Shahrzad, Chitore, Khobom are some of the few words I know in farsi :) I am happy to find your blog via one of the RT in twitter and the followed you over twitter. Your blog is awesome and you have an amazing spirit and very interesting posts. I like this post regarding marrying and Iranian girl. I wonder if it is okay for an Iranian girl to marry a Suni Muslim?

    Koda hafez :)

  175. Palash Says:

    I’m an Indian Hindu male and was going steady for some time with an Iranian girl. She was very sweet and even though I did not knew much about Iranian culture, I found many amazing similarities between both of us. However, our relationship didn’t quite work out because of following reasons:

    1. Language differences -Clearly, there are many common words between Hindi/Urdu and Persian, but an inability to communicate well is a major stumbling block
    2. Religious differences – I’m a staunch Brahmin Hindu and she was a devout Muslim. Both religious systems are very conflicting. I don’t think it’s fair even one person give up on their religion by adjusting.
    3. Visa hassles – Now, don’t even get me started on that. Unless, both of you happen to live in another country, it’s an impossible arrangement.

    Indeed, intercultural/international relationships are very difficult and not for everyone. I’m about to marry a girl from my caste and region. But, I’ll forever remember this Iranian girl. She was absolutely amazing and noone could possibly replace her.

  176. sanaz Says:

    hello shahrzad..sanaz here..i really need ur help with my marriage with an american guy..is that possible to get married in turkey and then will he be able to live in iran for couple of months till i finish my study and i will get the visa for USA?
    thanks a million

  177. STING Says:

    This is common in many countries. Although I understand the reasons for such laws, but I am not comfortable with it. You never know when you find the right partner and where. This can be a headache then!

  178. Chris Says:

    So if i’m christian, i cant marrye with iranian girl?

    I’m christian, but i must say that most westwrn girls are ….

  179. azmal Says:

    I would prefer Iranian girl as my Life Partner since they are beautiful also culture of Persia

  180. Manu Says:

    I’m a Hindu by birth and an atheist by belief. I am in love with an Iranian girl. Been working on my Farsi for last 6 months. Finally visited her and her family this month(July 09). Met her family and friends and they all accepted me.

    Just wanted to find out about the country where we should get married – India, US Turkey or Iran. Also will she retain Iranian citizenship after getting married. We would like to go back at least twice every year – it is such a beautiful country :o )

    Any other comments/suggestions?

  181. Shahrzad Says:

    Manu, You can definitely marry easier in Turkey, due to easy civil law. For more information, you can contact both Turkey embassy and Iranian embassy in whatever country you are.
    The iranian girl will NOT lose Iranian citizenship after marriage /getting citizenship of foreign husband. As i didnt lose.

  182. Helen Says:

    Irum,

    He can’t leave Iran. I have to move there or forget him. However, the only other place I would want to move is Saudi anyway. I live in USA. I do not like it. Most people here are clueless as to what is going on. They research nothing and believe what they hear. They let a President in that has a Grandfather who financed Hitler. The people here do not see the war as what it is..a way for this President and the rest of the elite 5% that own 95% of USA wealth to get more power and money. They also have interest in pharmaceuticals..hence the anthrax scare and the phasing out of certain drugs in the Spanish countries and replacement of them with drugs that are worse but again profitable to them.

    USA controls the world economy. Only a few countries escape their control and USA tries to strangle them for it. Iran is one. Yay Iran. I was born in USA but I know right from wrong.

  183. Manu Says:

    Thanks Shahrzad..
    You’re a life saver.. Oh wait!! Make it two..

  184. Ali Says:

    Salaam to all,

    Thank you for all this “Shahrzaad”. Hope all of you are doing fine. Well I am Muslim and living in Uk, recently i fell in love with a girl from iran(Tabriz). She lives in tabriz and studying. I want to know few things

    1- How are irani girls In general?
    2- Specially from Tabriz? are they loyal?
    3- How can i get married to her and what is the easiest way? I have been to iran many times and somehow know their culture. But still it would be great of you could help me out. do i need to have a lawyer here or do i need to travel to iran to marry or what??
    4- Can she adjust with my culture (Asian) ? and be able to live in Uk?

    5- Do they like to live in Joint family or live seprately? any one from iran please pass your views?

    6- What kind o job do they prefer?

    7- Do they really have islamic values? as tabriz is more close to Turkey and azerbijan.. as i have been to turkey and azerbijan.. Most people are muslim by name only… so that was reason of my question?

    8- I have seen her once and since than we are talking over the phone, emails, chat etcc…. I want to meet her again.. she says that in iran laws are very strict.. she can not meet me or she wil be in trouble if anyone sees… than I asked her to visit me in uk, which she says that she can not travel alone, because in iran girls can not travel abroad? can anyone suggest me anything, how can i meet her?? can i meet her in Tabriz? or tehran? or anywhere in the world where she can come alone? ( she also wants to meet me)

    9- I am 25 years old and she is 24, does this matters for irani girls.. i mean age difference is less?

    10- can anyone suggest me so that i can convince her to come to Uk (Or else where) and live with me? as she is very worried , she wants me to live in iran? please suggest me anything which i can convince her?

    Please help and advice.

    Thank you in advance… gold bless you all..
    Regards
    Ali

  185. Nazir Says:

    Hi! I’m brazilian 40 years old and live in Rio de Janeiro – brazil. I’m separeted with 2 kids that lives with the mother. I have some iranian friends here in Brazil and in US. So I starded to read about Iran and its people. I LOVED… Now I want to meet an iranian girl for a long relationship. At least for the rest of my days. Do you think thats possible? How can I do that? Thanx.

  186. uma Says:

    such an informative blog ..thnx

  187. sohail Says:

    Hi shahzaad

    Perhaps u dont remind me.before six months i wrote u about the problem to marry with an iranian widow.
    As u guided me the link about new iranian law in which if girl can give in written then no need for documents.

    But First of all i should thank to you ,that link gave me the hope to visit again to iran ,and alhumdulah her parent agreed n sheikh performed our nikah illegally n then we proceeded for the registration at ministry of external affairs n also my wife gave them in written that no need of ne document .

    After three months ministry of external affair ,refused that there is any new law in which on girls request no need of document …..i am still confused …plz clarify that how i can prove that there is ne law in which on girls request no need of hectic documentation.

    Further more ,i go through hectic process for preparing such documents like non criminal record ,unmaried proof ..income certificate and faced interview …….Now the problem is that .they take me in written and also frm my wife i never claim for iranian nationality n always i ve to come on tourist visa .
    second they want the property document from me .

    third they are asking all document shld be attested by iran embasy in india as i am indian national and my income document frm uae iran embasy cos i am working in uae.

    i am still working on it ,but i always think if there is existence of such law in which no need of document then why shld i do ….if u say me i wan to follow that too but not remain dependent on that law completely

    Second ,is it any law that if foriegn shld marry with irani girl he will not get nationality …atleast i shld get long term visa …i exactly dont know neither my wife knows..all hope is upon u …plz give me some detailed and usefull answer ,when u ve enough spare time .cos ur one single line turns too good for me ..may be ur detailed summary removes all hurdles..

    always ur sincere
    sohail

  188. Helen Says:

    Are you Muslim? Asking for a reason, trying to think of ways to help you.

    Helen

  189. Nazi Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,
    Its really interesting to talk about marry a Iranian girl.
    I’m Iranian girl I have a Brazilian boyfriend. We are thinking to get marry. But we give time to ourselves to know eachother more. We had some discussion about the Iranian cultures but he read something in the web and news which is not really thru. He sent me this link (http://shahrzaad.wordpress.com/2007/10/06/problems-to-marry-iranian-girl/ ) and asks me to give him my commentaries about this text.
    But I’m really not able to open his eyes that Iranian peoples and cultures are not really as he read in some news and stories.

  190. Helen Says:

    If you are an Iranian girl and are a Muslim, you are not allowed to marry a non-Muslim unless he converts. You do not mention the religion of your boyfriend. As for Iranian culture. It is DIFFERENT not wrong and IRAN is one of the LAST places on this planet where marriage and family work.

    The Media is censoring everything about Iran to break them. They are one of the last countries the USA does not control. I feel USA will try to start a war to do what they did in the other Mid Eastern countries. I do not like people who play God personally.

    I have an Iranian fiance but we are married in eyes of Allah. We are practicing to our religion and waiting each other til we have formal paper work. I converted to Islam in 2007 and there is no way for a Muslim to marry a non Muslim who does not expect to convert.

    Now that I am a Muslim, I would never marry a non Muslim. There are too many things that would break the bond. Covering is a big one. Women who are Muslim by Quran must cover feet, ankles, legs, arms, top, and hair. THEY MUST. They have to obey their husbands too.

    Obviously if husband say go run in front of train ..you got to question, but this is a scenario that don’t usually happen…my fiance is very kind and smart. He is level headed. When my being a women makes me crazy, he has saved me more then enough times so I completely trust that if he tells me ..no absolutely no..I need to listen to him.

    The man is naturally stronger then the woman and meant to protect her. I do not see this as bondage, oppression or whatever other derogatory term men haters use. I see it as my Alka Seltzer..oh what a relief not to have to deal with stuff I wasn’t meant to deal with, and I am American born. :)

    Not proud that I am but proud I was given an opportunity to see outside of a very tight box of government/elitist control..Enshallah!! :)

  191. divs Says:

    Hi Shahrzad,

    I really like your blog. Thanks for sharing :) I have TOTALLY fallen for this Iranian girl that comes to my gym. How I feel about her is ineffable and something like this has never happened to me before!

    I am an Indian and she also lives here. All I know about her is that she is an Iranian. I have been thinking of piling enough iron to go and talk to her. She doesn’t talk to anyone at the gym where she comes for yoga classes. So, I don’t even know how to approach her.

    I just can’t stop noticing and thinking about her. I have come across many girls but I have never felt this way. It is very overwhelming to be totally in for someone I haven’t even talked to, but I can’t control :) I mean her first sight kind of melted me!

  192. hasan Says:

    iranian women must marry iranian man because non iranians are f***ing a******s.!! irani ba irani bayad bashad.
    f*** american! f*** arabs! f*** europeanns!!

  193. Jesus salazar Says:

    The Iranian woman is wonderful, they have a great tradition and they are faithful. In the USA, people is different. This country have a freedom in the religion and the laws are careful with this one, so the traditions are forgotten by some people. I would like to know a iranian woman, but no inside of the USA. Lol

  194. Adam Says:

    Be Aware! NEVER marry Iranian girls! In general, Iranian people are very racist against other people and cultures especially Arabs. In fact, they are the most racist people against Arabs. However, they’re not very racist against Westerners such as the Americans and Europeans even if they are non muslims!

    They claim to be Muslims but they are very nationalistic. They don’t know that Islam has no nationality or geography.

  195. Helen Says:

    Iranians:
    Ok, first A lot of Iranians are Arabs, so the comment about them being prejudiced is a lie or ignorance due to a run in with one or two people. People who are thinking clearly do not judge an entire race by a couple people.

    Second, a lot of Iranians are Persians and all Iranians I have met are sweet and good. Third, they are not permitted to be boyfriend girlfriend and have sex and can get into serious trouble for this because it is AGAINST BEING MUSLIM.

    In Quran it clearly states that we are not to fornicate. Sex before marriage is NOT ALLOWED. Fourth, being modest, a true Muslim will not air their problems and NEVER EVER discuss sex on an open public board–SHAME ON YOU that have. Read your Quran. I am not born a Muslim and am SHOCKED that I seem to know more about Quran than MANY people who had the priviledge to be born Muslim. This is because THEY DO NOT KNOW WHAT IS IN QURAN–THEY DO NOT STUDY IT, and even in Quran it says Quran is a grace and a mercy, put there to read for this purpose.

    Also, the person writing about how they are kind to Americans and not Arabs …umm I am American by birth and I got to get followed around over there when I visit because I am American and USA likes to send spies and aggravate Iran, so they are not too kind by necessity.

    Maybe you read about the 3 Americans (OMG that one need to be in jail just because his rap video was so bad), that crossed the Iranian border by “accident” , all around the age of the usual CIA agents etc. and ppl think its bad they are in jail. What do you think we would do to an Iranian if they “accidentally” crossed the US border? Try they would have been gone 2-3 years, tied up, getting defecation on them in Guantanamo. I am a realistic person and I tell it like I see it. :)

  196. shayan Says:

    i only want to say that the long process to marry an Iranian girl is legal and fully correct. it is necessary for foreigners to make sure the Iranian girl that they will not betray them after marry.

  197. sudhi Says:

    hiii all
    after a long time visiting here.
    happy to be here :)

  198. Mohammed Says:

    salam to all..

    My name is Mohammed. i m from Bangladesh. i fall in love with a iranian girl. her name is sara. she is from esfahan. we love each other. but after a few months later i came to know that she is engaged with an iranian boy. she broke my heart badly. but i did not say anything bad agains her because i loved her truly. so i accept it. but now she says that she loves me a lot n wants divorce from her husband. so i decide not to communicate with her. because first she destroyed my life now she is going to destroy her husband lifes..anyway my request is not to say lie to anybody, specially in love it just destroy ur life n aim…i don blame any1. but i think she should not tell lie with me. thats all. bye

  199. ali Says:

    Salam,
    I need help regarding the marriage in Iran.I am shia Muslim guy from India and want to live in Iran after marrying with iranian girl. Can i get work permit and indefnit stay permit after marrying in iran, like it happens in European countries. or is there any other way to get settled or migrated to Iran.
    Regards

  200. jeff Says:

    hi shahrzad,

    i have been reading ur blog since very long time as i myself is in love wth an beautiful iranian angel and she also loves me so much and cares abt me so much, whnever i am sad or upset she is there to support me,i can say she is my strenght and the day i dont talk to her that day is really very hard , i really want to marry her and she also wants to spend all her life wth me

    i want ur suggestions as to how to marry her in iran as she is scared of her parents. i will be going to doha qatar for my job and will be planning to stay there for a long time.

    plz plz plz suggest me something as it hard to live wthout her

    and also i want to know that if i covert my religion to islam can i convert back to my origional religion as it is confusing for me

    i hope u reply back to me as its really important for me and my life(the girl)…………….

  201. Alexander Says:

    I have a unique situation. I’m a Jew and I’ve been dating an Iranian Muslim girl for over a year and we want to get married. She’s here in Canada, but she’s born in Iran and despite being a practicing Muslim in every way, I thank g-d she comes from an open-minded family like mine. Now my questions are this- is there ever a chance I could visit Iran with her, to meet her extended family, and see this fascinating country from which my love hails? What are the silent understandings involved in marrying an Iranian Muslim girl? I’m deeply in love and will overcome any obstacle, but I want to know what I should expect ahead of me. Any advice or comments would be appreciated. Thanks.

  202. shahbazy Says:

    من اصلاًَ از کشور افغانستان استم من به زبان مادری من فارسی(دری) است صحبت میکنم من بسیار دوستار دختر ایرانی استم که همراییشان عروسی کنم میخواهم با دختر ایرانی عروسی کنم

  203. arman Says:

    I like this web site blog. My question is why every time nonmuslim should convert to islam. Normally girl follows her husband’s culture and hence muslim girl should girls should be converted to the religion they are marrying. Rules and regulation with regard to womans right are harsher in other communities compared to islam. Gilrs are more secured respected if they convert to other religion.

  204. Chris Says:

    I would like to change the subject and ask about non-iranian, non-muslim girls getting married to persian, muslim guy? What are the cultural drawbacks here? Can a persian-muslim marry a non-muslim, western woman (not girl :~)?

  205. Vitamin R Says:

    SALAM
    Chetory?
    Nice blog Shahrzad.
    come to my blog
    “khatneh” is the biggest problem related to get an Iranian girl for non-moslem foreigners. :) )

  206. faraz Says:

    Dear Shahrzad
    iam a pakistani man n im in love with an iranian women n one month before i visit to iran on business visa. n i then me n my girl friend visit to the ministery of forin affairs for asking the marriage process but they says it is banned in iran 3 years before that iranian women cant do marry with forign national n then we both gets worried n then i called to my embessy in tehran they says to get 2 documents from pakistan 1. parents affidavied tht they allow u to marry any where. 2 . police certificate
    my question is tht wht is the process of marriing iranian girl. m soo worried about it, or if u advice me is it possible i will just do a nikka in iran n take tht nikkh nama n register it in pakistan n gets ur pakistani nationality n can she have dual nationality(pakistan n iran) at one time?? n if i wana like to go to iran i think i cant gt the iranian nationality ys?? pls guide me the whole process m worried about it alot.. my email address is : farazhasn@gmail
    plz i want ur repply

  207. Shahrzad Says:

    Faraz,
    for Pakistan, Afghanistan, Turkey, Bangladesh, India, Sri Lanka and Iraqi nationals there’s a further obligation that they have to provide special permission from the ministry of foreign affairs. If the ministry doesnt give that permission based on the conditions the guy has to provide for the marriage, they are not allowed to marry.
    The couple can marry in a third country like turkey for sure. but the children cant get the iranian nationality upto 18 that they be considered as adult themselves and claim for nationality of mother. That’s as long as the couple dont marry in iran.

    Based on Iranian laws, woman after marriage does not lose her iranian nationality. In most countries, dual nationality is illegal but then there are many iranians living abroad who have dual nationalities and they have no problem traveling to iran, using their iranian passport.

  208. faraz Says:

    Dear Shahrzad
    thanks for ur comments n ur kind help, shahrzad u give me a way for marry in 3rd country. but give me an idea if i DO JUST A NIKKAH in iran n then take that nikkah in pakistan and register it n give my girlfrind pakistani nationality too so i think it is a legal act.but i dont know wht iranian have a rule on dua nationality but i think i saw lots of iranian womens in karachi with there pakistani husbands n i think they all have iranian passports n pakistani passport as well. BUT GUIDE ME ”
    1 . I WANA DO A NIKKAH IN IRAN N REGISTER IT IN PAKISTAN N GIVE HER A PAKISTANI NATIONALITY is it possible??
    2. can she be a dual national of pakistan n iran. i dont know about iran law. but in pakistani law she can be a dual national.
    thank you iam waiting for your responce

  209. Yasaman Says:

    hey there..
    good points out there…

  210. Paolo Says:

    ciao Shahrzad
    i’m from Italy and i’m planning to get marry with iranian girl in Italy, meet in chat and meet in Istanbul for one week…we love each other very much.

    My question is:
    if i marry with her without converting to islam, she will have problems to go back to Iran afterwards, to meet her family…or her family will have problems with government ??

    Grazie mille (tks very much) …your blog is really intersting

  211. babak Says:

    At first glance with regard to title , the article should be something about marriage with an Iranian girl, but after reading the lines the first thing cross readers’ mind is that an Iranian man especially ex patriots should be so cheating guy to deceive a girl to take her to west, but based on your article my question is if we suppose that you are right then how we can resolve contradiction between western life which can offer a man easy sex and enjoying life without any trouble but the same guy going back to country and deceive a girl and with lots of trouble which may incur take her to west ? Since in accordance with statistics most Iranian men in western countries are high educated and successful men? As you have seen in your T.Vs Iranian men are dying in prisons and streets because they care about freedom and women’s rights, one of a kind movement which inspired lots of freedom movements in dictators’ heaven region. With that said a culture of care and family loving and passion has developed among this generation which is rare across the globe.
    For those respectful Iranian ladies who are saying about marriage with a foreigner ok that’s your choice but my question is if you like that way so why you want to talk about the matter in such a forum since you know the laws better than anyone else? My best guess is you want to object this matter that you Iranian guy since you didn’t marry me I’m marrying to a foreigner man. Sorry for that but that’s a reality and even the author if I suppose is an Iranian respectful lady by just her name , she wanted to revenge in that way by authoring such an article cause they know the new generation who care a lot about a lady’s feelings and not just sex why one of them didn’t marry me.
    Do you know why I’m proud of being an Iranian man? Because I’ve fought for the rights of those respected ladies who may even hate me as a typical Iranian guy.
    For an Iranian man military service is mandatory and it took 2 years of it best days of life. In the meantime he got to go to useless university which in turn took 5 years and after that he got to find an appropriate job to take care of his family. With that said he can’t satisfy all of expectations of a young educated lady by marriage who wants to get what the regime has got from her.

  212. hesS Says:

    Woo0oOWw shahrazad……..ppl r very interested in ur done job………….im aRabi..yemeni…….and i knw that iranians and arab “dosnot like each other much”, but that gotta stop anyway……. i v been actually amazed by everythng related to iran since long……but i think religious gvrmns ,in the both sides, make ppl hate eachother………..i think iranian ppl are full of life and love beauty..and others………i really wish that oneday, the train from riyadh to tehran has an invisible queue of ppl waiting to get in it…………….

  213. Firdaus Suradi Says:

    Assalamualaikum shahrzad :) .. is there a problems to married iranian boy ? hahahahaa .. I would like to know cause I wanted to married with iranian boy :D .. your blog is quite interesting lol ..

  214. Abhishek kumar Says:

    i dont agree with the above 200 or may be more lines.i think the world consist both ggod and bad people,but this is not true that for some bad people all the people sholud be punished……….

  215. jubin Says:

    Shahrzad, I am afraid I must say that the picture you have given of Iranian culture and Iranian girls is naive, and biased! After all you are (likely to be) an Iranian woman!

    As an Iranian man, I found Iranian culture for marriage among the most stupid cultures. It is very inconvenient and includes a lot of headache. Dignity and honesty can easily get lost or at least underestimated, simply because of the overemphasis on “money” and “expenditure” in our culture of marriage. Moreover, the culture of “Mehrieh” (which now days easily exceeds hundreds of thousands of US dollars) is very unfair and very much uncivilized aspect of Iranian marriage. Specially, given the fact that due to modernization, many college trained Iranian girls claim equal rights “Mehrieh” seems not to make a good sense anymore. A guy who has not even touched once his future wife, undertakes and signs to be indebted to her that huge money!! Both legally and practically it brings him a lot of inconvenience.

    For a typical Iranian girl, it does not matter how honest and civilized, independent, and decent is a guy. There are two things that intrigue Iranian girls significantly: (1) Money (2) Chance to go to western countries! So if you leave in a developed country, you have a great chance to attract a (very stupid) Iranian girl whose motivation to marry you is first of all to get out of Iran. It is a dream for most of Iranian girls to live in or at least visit western countries. Otherwise you must at least have money to attract Iranian girls.

    Then about the loyalty of Iranian women, if you simply talk to marriage/family consultants and/or psychologists, you are going to discover a shocking phenomenon that: recently it has become a “fashion” in Iran for married women to seek a boy friend. This claim can be easily verified in yahoo chat rooms.

    The other sad thing about typical Iranian girls is that, they are not independent at all, and they expect their man to waste almost all his life to make money in order to realize her dream of living in a big house, buying expensive car (this one is very important for Iranian girls!), …
    To give you an estimate of the extent of the disaster a man can face when he marries a typical Iranian girl, please note that an average 100 meter squared, apartment in Tehran costs more than 200,000 dollars, which with a typical Iranian salary may take more than 3 decades to own!

    To summarize, as an Iranian guy who has been betrayed by two Iranian women, I do not recommend Iranian girls to neither foreigners, nor to Iranian men who can afford to marry non-Iranian girls.

  216. faraz Says:

    dear jubin
    in some extant u r right n in some extent i dont agree with you, im a pakistani man n im fall in love with iranain girl, dear who says u to marry with a dependent girl? if u select a sensable, educated n litrate girl i think u or others wont face any issue like this. ys now a days girls demand is so high n they want wealthy n rich man , bt i think money is not every thing n dont forget, girl is always be depend on boy after the marriage so it is our responsility to give any thing which they want as much as we r able too, bt if ur wife didnt undertsand u then do discussion with her n i think if u tell everything to her in a loving n caring way she can undertsand u :) bcz girls always have a very delicated heart n im not talking abt just in the favour of iranian girl im talking abt the pakistani/indian n easteran girls :) so my point of view is discuss n telling ur point of view to ur wife n share ur things with her.
    now MEHAR issue ys now a days it demands r so high for a girl n even collages teach girls for tht :( bt i think mehare fatemi is so sutable for every buddy n if the understanding is good between girl n boy then i think these issues r useless for them..
    so dear jubin good n bad ppl r always be on this world every buddy is not same not in iran nor in anyother country it is our way n our experiances makes us to think in wrong way. 1st of all we have to be focus on our way of thoughts n mind it man is more powerful then women,
    3rd thing ys i know it is become a fashion tht married women search a boyfriends :) bt azizam it is there way n there eman y u r in tention , even married man wants to make girlfriends too i have lots of example even in iran n even in pakistan too, even if my wife do tht do u think i can stop her forcefully? no i can’t do tht …….., man is always make lots of girlfriends n if woman make boy friends then wht is wrong in it? 1st of all we man have to make our self loyal with our wife otherwise our wife can make boyfriends too :) so tht is called makafate amal if u r loyal with other then other can be loyal with u too :)
    shakespear says
    ( man is not a man who can’t convance his girl to have a tongue in his mouth )
    bye

  217. Oliver Says:

    Someone started this string in a good spirit to be informatiove abt hassles marry an iranian girl . But Guys they no have any problems marrying a foreigner. These Moslems are hippocrats .
    They need be differentiated . why both the hands are no equal ,why no same rules for guys and girls as well . ultimately its kafirs they call Non Moslems . Islam takes it for granted that kafirs are for screwing and all protection is needed by moslem girls . wallaha, aka how this balance can be there on the world ,believe me till Islam is on the earth there will be a friction. Islam is originated to do everything opposite to the sedentary common sense and civilization. So have your fun rubbing shoulders be it marriage or other things. I am no fanatic , i am a liberal as far as the political inkling is concerned.

  218. Mudassir Says:

    Great Job buddy!! useful info I believe :)

  219. rennyC Says:

    awesome info..

    thanks blogger…

  220. Nick Says:

    hey thnx 4 ur gr8 website… well can i ask u a question?
    i’m a danish boy (22 yr old) n i’m in love with an iranian girl(19 yr old)…she’s now my gf…she’s muslim but not like those extremist n traditional muslims e.g she doesn’t wear hijab but she’s a very loyal girl n is very careful with her relations with other guys… even with me!yeah she’s even careful with her relationships with me…n i know i have always a limitation n can’t go far from somewhere till we rn’t married…!!!n tho i can’t do sths with her that other danish boys can do with their gf but i like this manner…i trust her completely n this is very important 4 me…so i really love her n i wanna marry her…i’d never married b4 n hadn’t been in jail as well but i’m a christian n don’t wanna change my religion..so this means i should skip her? but i’m sure i can’t do this,she’s the girl i’ve chosen 4 my whole life n i cannot give her up…she’s the one 4 me n i feel gr8 when i’m with her so there’s no way 4 me to give her up…she says this is not islam’s rule this is jst iran’s rule.so what shall we do? n Oliver i’m not agreed with all of ur words,i figured out Islam has no problems,this is some extremist muslims specially in arabic countries that have blemished islam,i have no special zealotry on islam as u c i even don’t wanna change my religion at all but as i said pure n modern islam is different from what we c in tv or read in newspapers…telling this by exprience of being with a modern muslim girl 4 1 yr….

  221. Umesh Says:

    Salaam Muslim Brothers and Sisters:

    A big thank you to Shahrzad for this great blog.

    I learnt a lot by reading the previous posts since I too am in love with an Iranian girl. She is in Iran and I live in a western nation (I’m originally from South India) and I hope I’ll be able to get her a Visa to come here so we can be married soon.

    I believe that all Muslims should be able to marry anyone they love irrespective of their Race or Nationality. What is important is that each party live according to the principles of the Kor’an.

    After having lived in a Western, Christian country for more than 15 years, I can see clearly that it is White-Christians who primarily emphasize and make a big deal about Race, Skin Color, Ethnicity, etc. We Muslims should not follow their Racist lead/example.

    Allah doesn’t discriminate or love one race, skin color more than the others.

    – Umesh

  222. Desert Oasis Says:

    People should be aware that if they marry in Iran, it does not recognize dual citizenship. Consequently, Iranian officials may confiscate your foreign passport since upon marriage you legally become an Iranian citizen.

    That said, I’m an American woman, who just married an Iranian man in Turkey, got my Iranian passport and visited Iran. We had to stay in Turkey running back and forth with our documents for nearly a month. Iran’s only requirements were for my husband to prove he had no other wives and no criminal record and for me to prove I was single.

  223. saikat s srk Says:

    i love iran girls,they r so beautiful.
    seeing them is like love at first sight.

  224. Lover boy Says:

    Please give me some ideas to get marry an iranian muslim girl with indian hindu guy… and i m totally madly love with her and i cannot leave her and i don’t want to cheat her that i will come and save you plz give me some ideas / procedure to go to iran and get marry her and i really i dont want change my religion also ….

  225. mahdi4chaos Says:

    hi, i am a 28 years old iranian man. i am here becouse a though ou must also know somethings beside the law circumstances befor geting married to a iranian.
    it is true that many iranian women are beautiful (most of them have turkish ancestory not persian), but to be honest i dont think you can find such motionless icehearted selfish gold diging women any where in the world, they are just and only after money, they also have NOT any wisedom for a life.
    i truly think you can find a far more kinder girl from another nationality, many men in iran donot marry becouse they know iranian women will just screw! but ofcourse the choice is yours.

  226. Brett Says:

    Great contributions! Well done!

    @mahdi4chaos: Women screwers are everywhere…even in the Hollywood:-)

    What I wanted to know is how temporary marriage goes in Iran. Does that take long too?

  227. Andreas Moser Says:

    You can always get married outside of Iran. Even on holiday.

  228. Andreas Moser Says:

    By the way, check out my gorgeous Iranian girlfriend: http://andreasmoser.wordpress.com/2010/12/21/emancipation-of-women-in-iran/

  229. mona Says:

    I have Iranian nationality. I live in France with student visa.
    I fall in love with one french guy who is catholic but not practical.my parents are Muslim by birth so me too but we are not practice and i have no religion in my heart.
    we are going to married in France.I would like to know is there any problem for us after i still have my iranian passport and I like to know what i should do.
    first i don’t believe any religion and second i don’t want him to convert to Muslim.
    can i live here without problem or i will be in troubled.
    merci

  230. Christine Says:

    I can understand the situation where Western guys take advantage and end up being very abusive hubsands to Iranian girls. There are sterotyes about girls from any part of that region (not necessarily Iran uniquely) that the girl will act like a servent and submissive puppy who follows her husband around and treats him like a god, with an absolute power and authority over her (Including freedom to order her to shut up and beat her). As if she’ll just allow him to get away with murder and never question him or stand up to him, because her culture “forbids her to” (I’m not saying that’s reality, I’m saying thats what the western intrepration is of *all* marriages in *all* those countries are like.) This type of western guy will NOT treat you right no matter how kind you are to him, he is the worst type of violent extreme abuser.
    Including how you worded “loyality” as the number one postive trait of Iranian women. When we Americans hear “loyality” like that we *read it* to mean you are trying to say Iranian women are “Obiedant. ” Which isn’t good… We read it from our cultural stand point which is, you’ll allow a man to do *anything* to you and never leave him. Yikes! Right?
    Saying Iranian women are very kind or honest or trustworthy or something else like that, would probably be seen more postively and respectfully.
    My suggestion would be to an Iranian woman on how to avoid this type a guy and make sure the love is pure (and not just a abusive predator looking for a victim/prey) is basically be bossy. Do not overlook or let him get away with a single *centimeter* of behavior that doesn’t please you, makes you unhappy, or uncomfortable. Don’t let him make *any* life decisions without discussing it with you first and making sure you’re fine with it. Insist relentlessly that he tells you everything and anything going on with his life: about his other relationships with other people, about whats happening in his friendships, etc. Don’t be quick to immediatly forgive and forget if he crosses the line with you and hurts your feelings in any regard. Even if he apologizes immediatly or profusely. Tell him flat out he crossed the line, that you won’t allow a man to treat you like that, and if he crosses that line again you’ll leave him. (And stand by your word! Don’t make empty threats or he’ll realize immediaty that you don’t mean what you say and he can still do anything he wants to you). Be very firm on all these. Some of this may seem harsh or excessive by your culture, but remember he is an American man and to him this is normal behavior of women who have value. You must demostrate you are a woman of Value to a man with western eyes to not be seen as the worthless slave dog who doesn’t mind severe abuse. In the east you must be a virgin to be seen as a woman of value, in the West this is the behavior/attitude you must do to equally be seen as a woman of value.
    My second advise would be, do NOT start planning marriage with him right away as Shahrzad pointed out in the west we believe in dating for a very long time before marriage to help determine if this is really someone a life long uinion will work out with. If he starts talking about marriage quickly within the first year, he’s probably looking to “buy a pet” in his mind not find a lifelong love, a soulmate. Please consider this. And expect to date for years before he’s ready to talk about marriage with you, if he’s a good guy. And maybe even longer to marry after becomming officially enganged. (However if he also wants to have other girlfriends and wants the freedom to date others and not be “tied down” in the years you guys are together he is NOT a good guy. After you two have discussed and decided to be a commited boyfriend and girlfriend, or said I love you to eachother, he should only be loyal to you. If he protests this, he isn’t in the relationship for pure, honest, and respectful reasons. He may be testing you to see if you are the type of girl to allow abuse.) So even if in your culture getting enganged right a way is the normal, realize in his culture its not and you should be suspicious. Also if you want to be more laid back after marriage and let him take leadership/decision-maker role or let him leave the house without telling you where he’s going– okay fine, but its extremely important you don’t allow him to be able predict that in order to weed out the scumbag western guys who think women from the middle east accept abuse. American men respect strong women who stand up to them and are very involved in the guy’s life/knowledgable about his life thats not related to her. The bad american guys don’t respect that from women at all- those are the violent bad abusers in our country.
    That all being said and done I have to say I disagree with you Shahrzad that these laws making it hard for women to have free rights to easily choose their mate is good. If a adult woman makes a big mistake from her choice of man, its her freedom to make that mistake. Women deserve to be honored with respect to be responsible for their own decisions and lives, because women are as capable and as intellegent as any man to make decisions. We are not dumb and fragile creatures that need to be treated like young children in need of protection and guidance in our adult lives.
    I dated an Iranian man for three years online, every person in my life was against it and made it clear to me they were. Exept for my parent. Everyone told my mother it is a danger for me to date an Iranian boy and to protect me from it. My mother’s doctor even suggested she take away my computer. But my mother trusted me and respected me enough to make my own decisions for my life as an adult. I was inlove and planning my future with this Iranian. And he talked to me about how much he loved me and wanted me to be his wife and mother of his children. I believed him and started making our plans. Than I found he had been cheating on me the entire time, and he told other girls he loved them and acted romantic with them and talked about going to their country for his future too. So the relationship did end up being massive mistake and he was apparently a scammer. But I do not regret for a second that my mother didn’t stop me or a goverment power wasn’t going to stop me. I am still so happy with my mother that she never stop supporting me, even if the iranian boy ended up being a deceptive wolf. It was my decision, a wrong decision, but it was mine alone to make– it was my freedom as a woman, as a capable respectable adult. (Even if I got screwed for it. I don’t need protected from my own mistakes/making bad decisions. I just need the freedom and respect to do so, even if that means getting hurt)

  231. Nina Says:

    Thank you, interesting xxx

  232. Syed Salim Says:

    Salam Everyone….
    Actually I am in love with one Iranian girl and I am an indian boy and i work in Bahrain. We met each other in yahoo messenger and later fell in love. Now we both want to get married and she wants me to stay in Iran for 1 year.
    What am i thinkin is if suppose we get married can i have both Iran and India citizenship?
    Please reply and give me a advice because she’s my life and i dont want to live without her…

  233. Mohammad Raqibul Hasan Says:

    hi, my name is mohammad. Im in love with one irani girl and i want to mary her. She also love me too much thats why we hav planed to get marry. As im bangladeshi citizen, i want to know the wedding procedure. So will u tell me plz….wht i hav to do?Thanks

  234. Average Joe Bodybuilder Says:

    I don’t know which is worse, the Iranian women who claim they are Muslim but then violate everything in Islam by going after these kafir JK’s or the fact that they have no pride in actually being Muslim in the first place.

  235. Average Joe Bodybuilder Says:

    If socalled Iranian women want to marry kafir’s… bad news… and I don’t care what you all think. A proud Muslim woman will stay in the deen….

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  236. Average Joe Bodybuilder Says:

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  237. vikram Says:

    i married irani girl in iran but could not register marriage but did it once reached my home. irani dong trust arabs and pakistani but still little bit faith in indians but only if ourboys behave and dont break there trust now im married happly for 10 years. just be truthful and you will succeed but only problem with irani girls are they wanba showoff tgey are well off with you so you have to spend lots of money to visit iran every year and gifts. little price to pay for love. irani girls have better attitude then indian chicks.
    indian chicks dont last long there alignment go wrong after one baby. but other countries girls look new even after 3 kids.

  238. muneereh Says:

    Hi every body,im an iranian girl wanna get married to a kuwaity man who is already married and has a kuwaity wife and children,i love him,but we can not marry in kuwait bcz dont want to make trouble for his family,can we marry in Turkey?

  239. amir iqbal Says:

    i read this article and agree really Iranian girl is very sweets and take care of there husband actually i travel in Iran before 10 years and saw Irani women are batter and honest then men if she see unfair to any foreigner she interpreted and told to Iranian men they are foreigner don,t take more money or any thing which that heart u this is my experience in Iran

  240. Nik Says:

    Hey all, Great forum lots of information. I am in love with my Iranian woman and our cultures are vastly different but same. I am Mexican American and our family values and cultures are similiar. We have been dating for 6 months and it is bliss. Our families are great and I cannot imagine a more beautiful person inside and out to be in my life for eternity.

  241. maryam Says:

    hey there…i’m an iranian girl who wants to get marry to a christian…and i was wondering if u could explain to me why turkey???and how that makes the things easier????and is there a way that my fiance get marry to me without changing his name and identity????

  242. elyar Says:

    Very interesting post
    So..
    Does this mean it is possible to marry a persian woman in turkey and then move to europe with her ?

  243. Dorsa Mohajer Says:

    Hi it was great good job nad Thank You for a Great note :) form an Iranian girl who loves her culture

  244. Shiela Says:

    This article is written in such bad English! You need more English classes.

  245. persian-pride Says:

    i’m an iranian guy, 20 years old, born and bread in London. it’s upsetting to see the vast amount of iranian girls (too many) who just betray us and don’t marry their own men but go for these useless indians and paki’s are you girls crazy?…..the iranian population is not big so this a disaster to what we stand for, this can’t be afforded? at this rate our race will be so diluted we’ll cease to exist as the iranians we are now notice a trend of how iranian men don’t go for these asians but our stupid women do? well because our women are such fooooools but the men are not, i’ve never seen an iranian boy not want to be with an iranian girl, we love our women……girls, why marry these indians and pakistani’s when we have eachother? iranians are beautiful people of course outsiders want to snatch us, thes indians and paki’s have enormous populations compared to us their taking over the globe and their probably running out of women because they keep fucking thats all they do their not nice people its all fake they just want to fuck our women and not to mention they don’t culturally suit us or match us at all who the hell said that? they are savage we dont even speak the same language and we look nothing alike, we’r not even of the same ethnicity, i know what indian and paki men are like their just dogs who want to fuck every woman that walks past like roaches they go after beautiful fair women which they cant find within themselves cause they are dark and unattractive so they must come after iranians after our stupid begheirat women who are now vatan fourosh as well har foreigner yad gerefte zan irani kos mide be har kasi vali faghad be hamvatanesh nemide, khak to saretoon……i’m telling you sisters, you will never be happy enough with a foreigner love is blind learn that now and your all fooled into it they just pretend everything to win you but just give it a while and fall pregnant to one of these disgusting men and see how much you regret it i’ve had so many asian women tell me exactly how their men are and even asian girls are shocked to see beautiful iranian women accpet their dog men…….you might think ‘irani men are bad’ even if you feel that (which isn’t true) you got another thing coming cause we are still the BEST of the worst for you girls meaning you can only be properly happy with someone who shares the same origin as you and thats only with your own men, its the only way things can click properly….one day i hope all our women will wake up to reality……i’m so disappointed as for now on behalf of all iranian men, is this what we fought for? to have our women taken? no

  246. ebi Says:

    The nice iranian woman is the single one. Onc they put their strng on you you will bcome an slave. They are dependant, immature, arrogant and ruler and gold digger. Their marriage started with gold coins

  247. Rasul Says:

    I am uzbek guy who live the in Usa , i am going to marry iranian girl who lives in the Usa. Will i have problem or difficulties in this case?

  248. Ahmad Salman Says:

    Hello Dear Shahzad, I need your help. I need to talk you. I love a Iranian girl who lives in Tehran. I will marry her within 3 or 4 years Inshahallah. She love me much. I am living in Sweden. A sunni Mulsim. I will tell you details, please give me you FB id. My email : salman_ln@hotmail.com

    I will be much grateful

  249. Nur Says:

    Salam. i’m a chinese-malay. i don’t speak persian or know much about persian culture until i met this persian guy .both are in love with each other. his family migrated to New York 2 years ago and i’m from an asian country which gives us 12 hours time difference. It has been very very difficult on us. What’s worse is that i don’t know if his family can accept me. because i’m just different.and i have a basic understanding that Arab people of any kind prefer their own race and stuffs like that. he has been assuring me he don’t mind .it doesnt matter. but i really wan to be accepted into his family and i’m scared. btw. i’m a muslim.

  250. Ali Says:

    If you want to marry an honest, decent, carer, “faithful” and I like to repeat “faithful” Iranian women, then get one of those who live in the small towns (country sides). and I’m happy that “Average Joe Bodybuilder” comments are perfect to read and they make sense. So let me tell you that I had an Iranian girl friend and I must tell everyone that once they leave Iran, they feel that they were in jail, So they drink like hell, become ethicist, date as many men as they can, “not faithful” and they know how to play that very well. I’m a Muslim living in the West, and I must advise everyone to marry a western women rather than those pretty big Iranian eyes with very bad hidden morals.
    Shahrazad: if you won’t publish my comments, I will assume that you are one those girl. I think it is a good idea to have another blog of people who bad experiences with Iranian women. Khili mamnoon

  251. QFD Says:

    Hello Shahrazad, my brother (a Christian) would like to marry an Iranian girl (a Muslim) and we would like to know whether he has to convert to Islam to get married to her. Obviously the entire family is against the fact that he has to convert. Is there any other way that they can get married without him having to convert. Will she be able to visit Iran after getting married. This girl does not want to convert to Christianity to get married but wants my brother to convert to Islam to get married. What should we do beacuse my brother is just not ready to understand the consequences. This girl has only been telling him that he has to read some lines in front of the embassy / consulate to say he is muslim and that it is. Is that some sort of nonsense information. Does reading a few lines in front of the COnsular state that he is now a muslim my religion or is it just a formality.

    Please advise.

  252. perwaiz ahmad hashmi Says:

    SAALM SHEHERZAD
    AFTER READING YOUR BLOG I COME TO KNOW THE PROBLEM BUT I THINK IT WAS A GOOD DECISION BY THE AUTHORTIES , IT IS TRUE THAT THERE ARE SOME PROBLEMS BUT I THINK IT IS FOR THE SAFETY OF THAT INNOCENT GIRLS ….AFTER ALL SOME GOOD THINGS ALWAYS HAVE A LITTLE SIDE EFFECTS …..GOOD INTERSTING AND INFORMATIVE TEHREER
    PERVAIZ AHMED HASHMI …PAKISTAN

  253. abhishek vijayaditya Says:

    Hello friend i m abhishek vijayaditya from india..but now i m dubai doing job here,i love with one irani rasht girl fro last 3 year,she also do nw she saying i cant marry with u abhishek cz u hindu..nw u tell me friend..she did lots of promise..i call her every day on her mobile last 3 years..i have been emotionaly attach with her..one thing tell me friend.if u do d love some one ..b4 wil u ask whcih religion u r .noooooooo..love is just love..and i cant change myh relgion..its my personel problem…friend i said to her u stay with ur relgion and i wil my relgion..most important thing should be understanding..but she make me cry nwo she dont want to marry with me..nw u tell me allah….if u give d many relgion then u sholud of every one different HEART like religion..why its all r same……i completely finshed from heart..

  254. NB Says:

    salam shahrzad jan.merc az site khubetun.man ye soali dashtam dar morede ezdevaj dar turkey.mikhastam bedunam ke dar turkey ye dokhtare muslim va ye pesare hindu ,mitunan ba ham ezdevaj konan bedune convert shodane pesar be islam ? va age emkanesh hast,aya baraye dokhtare moshkeli pish miyad vaghty mikhad iran biyad vase visit???ye soale dge ham in hast ke,aya ezdevaje dar turkey ya keshvare dge gheir az iran, dar iran sabt nemishe???merc.I’m waiting eagerly for ur kind reply

  255. Saeed Says:

    , i`ve met iranian girl in dubai and i think i`m very much into her , iranian girls are soo sweet and warm beside they r hot as hell.. even tho i dont understand why when they come to dubai 90% out of them u`ll see them walkin in the streets almost naked even the very old ladies ,they supose to be muslims and i`ve heard that in iran they r not allowed to go out without scarf .
    even the girl i have met and i like her very much i`ve talkin with her about her view of islam and i found out that even iam sunni and she is shaei its not very much defferent as long as she belives that there is no god but allah and mohamed is the prophet and she is praying and all but when she was here in dubai she was wearninh very un uslamic dress that covers almost nothing.

  256. Akshay Kumar (India) Says:

    Its a really very good article……….. and i am very pleased to know that people prefer daughters rather than son in Iran……

  257. Where is my andrea? im Your alex, we are the couples of an alexandrea Says:

    All races are beautiful no less beautiful,,and one more is do you feel safe if married to a beautiful woman? Milk is white in colour,but milk is necessarily remains in good condition?… marriage is a divine provision,we can only try to get something, if the things we liked the effort of God, then we will enjoy it..no matter what races he/she is, or what colour(skin) he or she is, what culture she or he is, ALL i know is Human being..,If your islam is right, you will not be comparing the human..do not talk bad about anyone, do not talk well on anyone.. thanks ,>m from India<

    the world has so many flowers,just pick only one fllower for you,then your life will be brighter,ameen,ameen,ameen..salamualeykom..
    For more inquiry pls call Qur'an Al kareem or Hadith Rasulullah Sallahu aleyhis salaam ,aleyhis salat wa sallam, ….

  258. nassim Says:

    dear mahdi,24 yaers..do u think it is good idea to talk about the girls of ur own country in this way????
    do u think that iranians boy are totally ok?do u believe that %100 boys have commitment and girls are just cheater???its better not to judge in this way..!!!!

  259. Usman Says:

    Slaam Everyone,
    Thanks Shahrzad , for such a great blog, great work!

    Can you pls help me in a dilemma!

    I am 28, m, studying in UK (from last 4-5 yrs). I will be finishing my PhD (Engineering) within 2-3 months. I am from Pakistan originally. I fell in love with one Irani girl, 24, from my school. She is v religious, never talks to any guy (everyone says the same). We are exchanging (heavy) texts from a yr now, and she don’t allows calls n dates as well.

    I have told her, that I liked her clearly, and she seems to be interested, however, there are certain problems, which I can see are preventing her.

    1- I am from Sunni background n she is Shia. Is this Marriage is possible?
    2- I need to go to Pakistan after finishing my studies, at least fr 3-4 yrs, due to some constrains, though I will have handsome job there. Can she adjust in Pakistan?

    Help me in getting out this dilemma pls, really appreciated!

    Khush Bash & Khuda Hafiz!

  260. Fahad Says:

    woooooaaaaaaahhhh!!!!! i never knew that the procedure has gone so tough…. at first place i even dont know how to contact the interpol :D documentation and coming to iran and meeting the requirement of family is far from reach… :P

  261. Tunisian boy Says:

    Thanks very much for posting this article you are really clever am tunisian and i wanna marry a syrian gal frm damasc :d thats why i searched in google about how to marry a foreign gal:)

  262. Andreas Moser Says:

    I got married to an Iranian girl/woman. It was NO problem at all.
    We did it in Europe, just needed both our passports, no other documents.

  263. manshad Says:

    hi,iam an indian,i married an iranian girl,we married on april 20,2011, we have a baby of 6 months who has indian passport,our life didnot go wel,cultural change etc etc,she went iran after delivery with child to stay some days in iran with parents,now she says i cannot continue my life with you,i hate indian cultures etc,now we want to be seperated,what are all the formalities of getting divorce?marrige held in iran according to iran law,plz help me out,what are all the formalities,?child should stay with whom?child has indian passport and he is an indian citizen,help me out clearly,she says she will not give her child back,she dont want child to live in indian culture,she is sick,before marrying and getting bABY from me she didnot think am an indian,howmuch time it will take for divorce?she accused and scolded worst about my family,culture,way of living etc,afte this i cannot continue with her,plz help me out…waiting for some1 to help,i just spoiled my life…while going from here she was saying i love u my husband etc tec and she asked me some gold chains around 100 grams,and swiped card around 1700 dollars for buying soveigners to her family,even in airport she kissed me and went saying i cant even stay 15 days without u,now she says all were acting,they have spent some money for marriage so she utilised the situation..help me soon,iam staying in muscat,i dont want to go iran for divorce,from here what all the formalities???????

  264. manshad Says:

    mahdi4chaos, please read my comment,u r 100 % true,iam experienced,icehearted,i provided everything she wants but she just broken my heart and left………

  265. manshad Says:

    also they mentioned in our marriage cerificate without my knowledge as i will provide 114 full bahar azadi coins which i came to know after i translate my marriage certificate in ienglish,it was a complete cheat,,may i mknow howmuch gram each coins will be?

  266. Kim Says:

    I’m 24 year-old South Korean. And I recently fall in love with an Iranian girl.
    First thing I say, she’s so perfect!
    She got everything I wanted, big eyes, beautiful nose, and etc.. (Something East-Asian girls don’t have ;P)
    I found that she’s very loyal to me. Not like other foreigners I’ve met before.
    I wish I can get marry with her in the future. However, the problem is, her family.
    Her family know that we are in a relationship right now, but I’m strongly doubt they will allow me to
    get married with her. Her mother maybe, but her father will definitely say ‘no’ for that.

    Can someone tell me a good way of showing my respectation to her parents and make them
    believe that I’m truly love her?

  267. Ellie Says:

    I found your blog very amusing … I am a British woman (now Australian) who has been married for 30 years to an Iranian man, 35 years altogether. Married in Iran during the revolution in May 1981 and the UK government said we must remarry in the UK, which we also did in October 1981. My husband has been out of Iran since he was 17 and fully westernised, visiting Iran only 8 times in 35 years .. so imagine my shock when he visits recently, meets up with old school friends and hooks up with a woman he hasn’t seen for 40 yrs and says she is his soulmate. He has thrown, yes, thrown his life away here, me, our two children, our business etc to be with her and we are in the sh….t in every way possible … and his family in Iran helped him!! Managed to get Australian divorce but now told the Iranian marriage is still valid as it was not listed in the divorce papers … and he has now married her in Iran and has obtained fiancee visa for Australia by deception!! So if he tries to enter the country, which is next week, immigration will be waiting. In the midst of big sh….t …BE WARNED, two marriages, make sure both are declared at the point of divorce!!!! Oh … and men watch out for those mid life crises! lol

  268. Ellie Says:

    Madhi4choas is totally right … as a westerner, after 35 years experience of Iranian women, everything he says is true. They act sweet and lovely to catch the man, and some have stunning looks, but the majority only usually want a visa to any western country and once married, they turn into nagging, loud, bossy, demanding and eventually overweight manipulators! Make sure you have money if you marry and Iranian woman. No its not bitterness, I speak from real experience – they are two faced! Oh and if you marry an Iranian man, the fact that they can 4 wives will be thrown in your face if you dare disagree!

  269. Free-man Says:

    all you people are still living in the past, believe me… nothing, not even religion can stop a man and a woman to get married. And you, Shahrzaad, stop deliting my posts, do you know what is the freedom of speech?…

  270. Free-man Says:

    Someone used my e-mail here, could you please delete the post with date January 29, 2012 at 3:02 am Thanks.

  271. Mark New Says:

    Hi All
    I’m a Muslim man married to a wonderful christian lady and recommend “interfaith &nationality”marriages. Never had any problem in relation to our different religions. I believe relationships like ours help to get rid of ignorance and prejudice, hopefully making our world a better place.
    When you fall in love with somebody you do so regardless of colour creed, religion and ethnic background. All you have to do is to be open minded and respectful of differences.

    I see absolutely no need in my wife converting to Islam in order to be my wife because I believe if there really is a God then God would be open minded enough to know that religion is a personal thing and people should be free to practice whatever makes sense to them and helps them to be happy. Its 21st century and we don’t have to go by the rules of mullahs, monks Rabbis and priests.
    Cheers

  272. Average Joe Bodybuilder Says:

    shahrzad i think you need to moderate more the postings. thank you.

  273. Dariush Says:

    Iranians should only marry Iranians , end of story , the comment page is full of trolls .

  274. امین Says:

    شهرزاد عالی بود.خوشحالم از اینکه کشورم ایران دخترانش پاکند و دوست داشتنی و البته هر که طاووس خواهد جور هندوستان کشد.من که خودم از نامزدم راضی ام و خدا را شکر میکنم.ممنونم ار این پست زیباتون.شاد باشین

  275. Esther Says:

    I’m an American woman. My Iranian husband changed my whole life. I had 5 years to live and was in a wheelchair. Now I have a baby son and a man I love more than anything except my creator. I just got back from living in Iran for two years. It is a beautiful country with kind and good people. Women are less oppressed there than in the USA. Oh what BS the media spins for ratings and most of us stare at our TVs and read our spoon fed lies believing that we are being fed the truth. To know the truth YOU MUST LEAVE USA. Once you are outside of it, the whole world changes. Other countries aren’t censored like we are and you will never know until you leave. I would have NEVER married anyone but my Iranian husband and I will only be with him forever. I am here in USA waiting for him to join me and our baby. He is the kindest, nicest, most wonderful and loving man I have ever met.

  276. Esther Says:

    Ellie, your post makes NO SENSE. It is ILLEGAL for an Iranian man to marry another woman while married unless ALL the wives he has give their consent. He can get serious punishment otherwise and the marriage will not be valid. I KNOW this. My husband, for example, cannot take a second wife unless we are divorced in Iran OR I give my permission. This is Iranian law. So you saying he is married there makes NO SENSE. If that is the case you need to contact the authorities there. They will negate any marriage with a second wife that you have not given permission for. Second, third and fourth wives are for each others benefit. In this culture having a sister wife can be helpful if you have 6 kids for example, but this is not a haram type arrangement for the man’s enjoyment. All prior wives must AGREE to all new wives unless there is an Iranian divorce.

  277. Esther Says:

    Understand, Iran is a religious country. If you are still married by Iranian law he will face a serious penalty. There are also only certain reasons for divorce. Even if a wife commits adultery, there has to be 4 witnesses or it cannot be proven. So, it is a fair system that works both ways, I believe even leaning toward the wife a bit. The wife gets a mehr from divorce no matter if she hos around and its usually some crazy amount. My nephews was $400000. They can stop the husband from ever leaving Iran. That is another thing. If you married him under Iranian law you were promised a mehr of so many gold coins which he owes you.


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