Looking for a book in my library, I found a notebook of years back. The years of university when I was a Bsc student. Finding that notebook which has too many daily notes of those years, reminded me of many memories. While I was flipping pages, I found an interesting note there: 30 tips to have a perfect personality..
They are some tips that I wrote them at the age of 18 years old. I just wanted to work on myself and improve what I am. I used to check back them now and then, change some tips and add some other tips. Interesting to look back to the age. Now i can see how much i changed. But still i am not completely fitted with the list.
30 tips to be a perfect person:
1. Perfect persons love everything in their life. They love Cities, Villages, plains, deserts, oceans, mountains, animals and every thing in the nature. They generally love life
2. They never complain and don’t waste their time with moaning. They never wish to be other person. . They don’t have barriers in their mind.
3. They are always excited for what they are doing.
4. They don’t get bored. They find something to do even in boring moments. They hate showing off and pretending to enjoy. They enjoy realities.
5. They are independent and dont feel guilty. They don’t punish themselves.
6. They live in the present time and are not worried about the future.
7. They are not afraid of unknowns and always search for new experiences. They love mysterious things.
8. They are not ignorant and stupid.
9. They don’t enforce their love to beloves. Free from expectations, their relationship is based on free choice and mutual respect.
10. Their private corner is very important for them. Sometimes they really love to be alone with the self.
11. They don’t fall in love several times. Usually they fall in love once and forever.
12. They are restrict to choose the beloved. But they love heartily and sincerely. Their love to their beloves will never end.
13. Their way in life is not judgmental. They also don’t care about others’ judgment and don’t need people’s admiration and sympathy. They don’t need to make all people satisfied. They always say what they want and are not scared to proclaim their ideas.
14. They are honest, frank and straightforward. They live based on their wishes and ideas.
15. They are not stubborn. But they choose their way by own.
16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.
17. There is an account in the bank for them. But they don’t kill themselves to make it full of money. Money is the last thing they care for.
18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.
19. They know how to laugh and make laugh. They like to tease people. But their way is not bcs of enmity or hatred. They never ridicule others. They don’t laugh at people, but they laugh with them. People enjoy to be with them, bcs they make joyful atmosphere around themselves.
20. Routine life is not their way. They love variety.
21. This life for them is a temporary time. Working hard to be better person, they never take life serious.
22. They dont say sorry for what they really love to have.
23. Facing the problems, They don’t get emotional and confused. They fight and win over problems. But they also don’t fight to take ineffectual and unfruitful goals. They are not essentially hero/heroine. Yet they are active and supportive.
24. Life for them is not living on surface. They usually go for content and know how to live.
25. They are crative and imaginative. For anything, They use their mind and their power of thinking. They are powerful, strong and full of energy.
26. They need less sleep and they are healthy. There is no way for depression.
27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.
28. Thirsty to know, They love to learn more and more. They are very curious and are not afraid of failure. They are mostly learner instead of teacher.
29. They have strong relationship with God. They love nature and the world.
30. They accept what they are. They love themselves and try to be best. The most natural people, They are themselves and not anybody else.
Is there any other character that i forgot to mention? What about you? How much you’re fitted with the tips? Based on the tips, how much you’re perfect?
See also 15 Tips To Be An Empowered Muslim
February 2, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Good points, although not sure about # 7. I mean like “not think about the future?”
If only I could find some person with all these great qualities.
February 2, 2008 at 7:23 pm
Besides nobody’s perfect.
February 2, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Isn’t it interesting what we can find looking back through our old school notes? I like your list
February 3, 2008 at 12:17 am
no-ones perfect, although I’d like to be..
inshalla I will become better..
February 3, 2008 at 12:45 am
If only it was so easy
February 3, 2008 at 1:34 am
O man!!!…if it were not for #11, I were a perfect person.
Welll…I do not agree with part of #9 Free from expectations…I think it is very natural to expect..unintentionally…like to every action ..we do expect a reaction..don’t we?
But good check list, Shahrzad.
February 3, 2008 at 2:09 am
Wonder if anybody in the whole World has all the mentioned qualities in today’s world ….. ????
Lol …..
February 3, 2008 at 4:23 am
Right Maryam nobody is perfect just like Jesus said.
“There is none good but one and that is God.”
Who can say, I have made my heart clean, I am pure from my sin? – Proverbs 20
February 3, 2008 at 8:07 am
You were very wise beyond your years at 18. Great tips.
February 3, 2008 at 8:39 am
My beloved says I am perfect for her. That’s enough for me
Ya Haqq!
February 3, 2008 at 8:44 am
I liked your list. It makes me think about how we quit reaching so high as we get older.
February 3, 2008 at 4:38 pm
cool list..
gotta agree with you list..
a good way to improving myself..
especially i’ve left with number 26, i need less sleep..
theheee~
February 3, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I agree with most of them, except 17: money is an important means of acquiring things we value – wealth allows us to make our lives more filled and enjoyable, so a virtuous person pursues money as a means to an end just as much as he pursues love as a means to an end – the ultimate end of course being his/her own life.
16 you said:
And yet no. 29:
God is an example of a stupid tradition. There is no part of believing in god that makes a person more virtuous. Actually, because it is an irrelevant irrational concept, believing in god is a vice, not a virtue.
Apart from that your list is mainly accurate.
February 3, 2008 at 6:29 pm
I must remind you that God is not a tradition. That’s a reality or a fact. Believing in him can be considered as tradition.
Of course who believes in God cares about human values more than a person who is not a believer.
I’ve brought up in a family that one side was completely disbeliever and one side was believer in God. I exactly have seen how much believing in God can change a person to become better human being.
With too many proofs that prove God’s existence -in sciences, religions and in philosophical aspects- insisting to reject this reality seems kind of ignorance.. There are a very little group in the world who doesnt believe in God.
So nowadays that’s “disbelieving in God” which is an example of old stupid tradition.
February 3, 2008 at 8:10 pm
I was interested in your list, and it clearly shows what kind of life you imagined for yourself, and what kind of worldview you were given as a child.
You have a very strong cultural sense of what a perfect person is, and your insistence that a relationship with God is necessary for this is disappointing. That may be your way, but it’s wrong to suggest that is the only way. I’m afraid there are no scientific proofs for God’s existence (and neither religion nor philosophy are able to produce verifiable ‘proof’ in this sense), and most of the world does not believe in a Christian God, or in a monotheistic god of any kind. And yet people can be happy.
Perhaps number 31 could be ‘An appreciation that we are not all the same, and that my way should not be considered the only path to happiness’. Other than that, an interesting list.
February 3, 2008 at 8:31 pm
If you study physics and philosophy, there are many proofs for God’s existance. Even the famous formula of Einstein – E=MC^2 – is a proof.
Also in the Mathematic, a simple integral can prove God’s existance. So for me that’s an old discussion. For i went throgh kind of questions and found my answer.
On the other hand, when i mentioned believing in God, i didnt spesify it. Doesnt matter he be known as Supreme Being, Jehovah, Allah, christian God, Bodha, Krishna , Ahoura Mazda or anybody else. Doesnt matter it be God or Gods. The concept is same. That’s important when majority believe in power or powers beyond their humanistic power; Creator and ruler of the universe..
The last point, it is the tips that i believe in. I didnt enforce it to others that they also believe and i didnt say that’s the only way. People have free choice
February 3, 2008 at 8:48 pm
Good to read, I will find myself where I am.
Salam,
Ali
February 3, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Irving, I see your point. Now for me is the same
February 4, 2008 at 3:43 am
bravo
February 4, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Useful post
February 4, 2008 at 3:07 pm
I think these are ideals we should pursue, but as an old Doc who has dealt with a lot of folks through the years, I haven’t met the perfect human yet, (except Jesus) and I am at the top of the list of those with faults.
However, this should not deter us from the pursuit of excellence. My motto is “Just ’cause I can’t be perfect ain’t gonna stop me from trying.”
Dr. Tom Bibey
drtombibey.wordpress.com
February 4, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Dr. Tom Bibey, I liked your motto
February 4, 2008 at 7:46 pm
I don’t really like this post… particularly 17. Also, 29 is just straight pretentious.
I think this model of “the perfect person” describes a hippy, not a responsible, self-actualized, fulfilled adult.
February 4, 2008 at 7:56 pm
Shauna, Are you sure you know meaning of “hippy” exactly?! I wonder if you know..
February 4, 2008 at 11:49 pm
hippie: someone who rejects the established culture; advocates extreme liberalism in politics and lifestyle (http://wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=hippy)
Yes, I get it.
February 5, 2008 at 12:15 am
Shauna, So maybe you didnt get my entry or didnt read it carefully.
I didnt reject any established culture nor do i advocate extreme liberalism in politics and lifestyle.
About the lifestyle the whole issue here is, NOT to live based on other desires and what other expect us to do.
What is rejected here is for example wasting too much money on wedding parties for showing off which is considered as stupid tradition. It is kind of living for others.
Also i even didnt talk about politics. Nor do i say people must wear esp clothes. (what hippies do)
So accept that label of hippy for the tips is abit nonsense..
February 5, 2008 at 9:52 pm
Shahrzad, sorry I don’t want to turn this into a debate, as I just wanted to agree or disagree with your list, but I need to correct you here:
Who told you this?? This no more proves god than the fact that the sky is blue.
What e=mc^2 proves is the LAW OF IDENTITY – that the universe exists and that everything in it acts consistently with its nature – to exist, is to exist as SOMETHING, and to act like THAT THING. Just as 2+2 = 4 and A is A, e=mc^2 – this proves absolutely nothing except that existence is identity – that is how we identify logic.
The fact that so many people throughout the ages have believed, means nothing – you will find less belief and more secularism the nearer in time you get. As science and knowledge and education increases, you find less people that believe in magical beings.
Here is one proof that god doesn’t exist: all conscious actions are a result of need or want or desire or force. “God” does not need, want, or desire anything, and it cannot be forced to do anything – therefore the creation of the universe is a contradiction in terms; “god” would never DO anything! Let alone create anything. The universe exists, therefore god doesn’t. QED.
February 5, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Hey Shahrzad,
I got 29/30
. The only one I messed up on was this one:
27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.
I put war-mongers and dangrious religious cultists in groups and blame them for trying to start wars with other religious cultists over who is more right. I will try to work on that one so I can get 30/30.
Be sweet!
February 5, 2008 at 10:25 pm
evanescent,
The discussion on E=MC2 is so long. You can check this link for a logic reasoning on what i said based on phycics
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_proof_of_God's_creation
The only theory in physics which you could mention to reject God can be theory of Quantum Mechanics (introduced by Heisenberg) for it discuss that nothing is completely certain. This theory also is rejected with another theory famous as Bohmian Quantum mechanic which “correct” the theory and reject the part of theory which reject God.
For scularism and future of humanity you can read my other post:
http://shahrzaad.wordpress.com/2007/08/18/does-humanity-have-a-future/
February 5, 2008 at 10:30 pm
johnnypeepers, Awww, you’re right anyway. I meant those extrimists who put “normal” people in group of pegans lol
You do good job on blaming them.
February 6, 2008 at 6:25 am
Aaaah, yes! The pleasure of digging through old stuff to discover hidden wisdom. Thanks for sharing.
Though when you really think about some of those points some of them are subjective and relative to which side of the fence you’re on.
February 7, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Bubbles, Thank you for your comment. Yes, i discovered many interesting notes in this notebook which i can not believe that i wrote them.
February 8, 2008 at 12:02 am
salam !
“als ich des suchens müde ward, erlernte ich das finden” (Nietzsche)
sorry my english is worse but i try to translate:
“once i got tired of searching, i tried to learn finding”
this seems to me much reasonable to become (or to try to become) a perfekt person.
thank you
February 15, 2008 at 3:50 pm
you all missed the point. You need to read my lifestyle guide for the 21st century
HOW TO BE PERFECT
February 28, 2008 at 10:14 pm
You’ve got some bright insights at age 18, that’s for sure. Interesting list.
April 2, 2008 at 2:37 am
interesting. more so than the list, the spirit and vision of the person behind it. i came across this site randomly after a google search, i think I will bookmark it and look around later.
April 9, 2008 at 1:51 am
SOOO much worth stealing ;d
October 27, 2008 at 1:51 am
It’s interesting to read ur list. i always think of how can i be a perfect person and thats the reason behind visiting this website.i have search google for “tips to be perfect” and i have found this one.i dont think that this is the ideal list,everyone has his own list according to his\her way of understanding life and what they want to be.
although its an interesting list,it didn’t match with my list.
i beleive that we must get benefit of everything in life,obvouisly,the good not the bad.
i always say to my friends that i’m a “project for a perfect person”.it doesn’t end here but i always look at the future and compare how much i have changed.
November 3, 2008 at 8:47 pm
Hi….i think it is all about struggle with life….
and it keeps something worthyable themes in our life…
we can learn how to sarview in the sea of life…
but i am not agree on 9th one….
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thanks…
February 21, 2009 at 8:08 pm
I always wanted to be perfect & be brilliant in everything i do. I agree with all the tips but, the problem is i do not have a single tip you have mentioned.
February 22, 2009 at 7:45 pm
That’s sounds alot like me. Or maybe i am just dreaming…
but i will try my best to correct this major flaw.
But to me the most important thing in life is to help people in need of help. Because most of us are blinded with our own in-ambitions that we forget the people we leave behind. That’s just sad…
I totally condemn streotyping. Don’t care if u r black or white, i will be a good friend to u.
The only point i don’t agree with here is that i love god. God has never helped us in anything, we have to work our ass off to get what we want. But i respect religions, so as long they don’t tout it.
October 2, 2009 at 4:59 am
id like to point out a flaw right here
theres some contradiction:
16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.
if you are perfect, you’re open minded enough to admire others traditions and barriers without letting them stop you personally.
18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.
what is the author’s idea of open-minded anyway?
who wrote this? not a buddhist thats for certain
it’s so ‘ME, ME, ME’ and well its not really perfect at all
October 27, 2009 at 2:38 am
are you serious?
people are arguing and shoving their beliefs on the comments of a simple blog
so what if the person who wrote this list believed in God, they didn’t tell you have to believe in any God
to the author of the note, i suppose the easier way to not have people argue religion, is to ‘coexist’, i mean with all due respect to the writer of the note, the note could be written for the audience for all people of certain beliefs?
so you wouldnt get annoying hags who try to convince you that their beliefs are right over the ‘net
anyways yes im a hypocrite for even commenting about stupid comments
ON A POSITIVE NOTE
it’s pretty cool
first result to show up on the google search page
November 11, 2009 at 2:34 pm
These are great. Of course all us fall short, but my motto is “Just ’cause I’m not perfect ain’t gonna stop me from trying to be.”
Dr. B drtombibey.wordpress.com
January 4, 2010 at 8:09 pm
I find it unbelieveable and just typical at the same time that people have made this note their lame opportunity to start petty debates about God and to point out inconsistencies that really don’t need pointing out. These people are examples of very flawed characters. The writer made it very clear that this was written a long time ago and are not trying to force their opinions on anyone! What this note reveals to me is the subjectivity of perfection and that the idea held by the individual is very revealing of the type of person one is. Everyone’s idea is going to be different! I thought this was a charming list and makes me want to write my own to see what it would reveal about my character. . . From reading I suspect that the writer is non-Western, which considering the culture would definately impact their ideas of a perfect person. So everyone shush up about disagreeing and go write your own list to see what it reveals about YOU. Ps. I could very much relate to your ideas. I expect my list will sound similar.
January 4, 2010 at 8:12 pm
Did I say Hindu?? I meant non-Westerner.
January 7, 2010 at 2:04 pm
Impressive article, now try to carve something useful for other target audience or maybe write anything you wish for like your past time.
February 3, 2010 at 5:26 am
I noticed your website when I was searching for something else, but this page was on the first page of Bing your blog must be incredibly popular! Continue the awesome job!
February 17, 2010 at 8:29 am
yeahhhhhhhhhh …….i accept u’r points but it is not 100% perfect for those who are lookin for the some extra-ordinery life………..and accordin to the things which are goin on are any normal person u’r point has to nO meaning………….
March 8, 2010 at 8:11 am
I like your list. I was wondering if looking back on it after a while, you have changed your mind about any of them? Or even added more?
April 6, 2010 at 7:40 am
May i translate this entry to Vietnamese language and public in my personal blog!
April 24, 2010 at 2:45 pm
I CAN NOT BELIEVE YOU ARE THINKING THE EXACT SAME THING IN MY MIND, I KNOW A PERSON ALMOST HAS ALL THE QUALITIES IN THESE 30 TIPS, I AM SO AMAZED THAT HOW COULD HE BE SO PERFECT, I WANT TO BE AS PERFECT AS HE IS, PERFECT PERSON DO EXIST IN MY EYES.(I AM ALSO A BSc)
June 9, 2010 at 1:51 pm
well first is a good list. But there is no recipe of how to be perfect. Everybody must try to be perfect in their own way. But there is something that all perfect persons have: They don’t care about people’s judgment. They all do their OWN WAY ’cause your way is the best way.
June 11, 2010 at 3:05 pm
You talk of open mindedness and a rejection of judgement but your list contains the recurring themes of judgement of ones self and others. Attempting to define what characteristics a good person obtains is of limited use and is ultimately self destructive. Learn to accept who you are, including your downfalls, realising nobody is perfect and ultimately happiness will follow.
June 12, 2010 at 4:10 pm
i agree with those ideas.i’m from addis ababa “Ethiopia”
June 17, 2010 at 2:36 pm
i agree with all the points except #29th
i dont believe in god at all..
neither i have good relationship with god.
but besides..
list is perfect brother!!
i would like to be like bill gates or ambanies or mittal..
June 28, 2010 at 6:52 am
The first thing we need to do is to stop seeing perfection as an impossible and using it as an excuse to relax our self discipline. Second, seek knowledge. All things are moved by the cause-effect principle, equilibrium, cycles, and attraction. To master life is to obtain the knowledge on how to make things happen first, which will give you the courage to take action, and thus get the power to make it real. Staying in school and getting an advanced degree should be one of the top priorities. Third, keep the family bond. Don’t let things like the internet, cell phones and video games, steal your humanity by killing your focus in your goals with distraction and your self-discipline with confort. Eat together at the table, do things together as a family, express and share your feelings openly. Fourth, observe other people’s mistakes to save a lot of suffering on yourself. Fifth, build a team of professionals to work for you to multiply your efforts and reach farther in all areas of life. Sixth, take care of your body and keep it in it’s optimal physical fitness and appearance. This will provide you with a myriad of benefits and save you a lot of troubles. Seventh, if you face a situation in which you cannot afford to make not even one mistake, build a simulator and practice until it becomes second nature. Eight, we all need to stop wasting time arguing and debating each other’s ideas and unite as the human beings we all are. So far, this is as optimal as I think it can get, until I learn something new.
June 28, 2010 at 6:58 pm
One very bad habit that is causing most of the troubles today is to be reactive. We need to switch from “reactive mode” to proactive mode”. When we are reactive, we don’t have any control over the events that happen in our daily lives. Even though, we can’t plan for 100% of all things, when we are proactive, we are planning ahead, thinking ahead and preparing for the problems before they manifest. A good general wins his battles on the planing table, making a battle completely pointless for both sides. Think about this, how many people do you know that take a child development course and become certified parents before having kids? how many people write down and mark on a calendar everything they have pending, so they don’t forget? how many people establish a college fund for their kids before they are born? how many people reach Master or Doctoral degrees at college today? How many people know how to speak 10 languages or more? How many people are financially independent (not needing to work to live)? How many parents you know that have kids that actually respect them? How many people run their own business sucessfully? How many people are physically fit? How many people that you know do all of this? All of this and more can be accomplished by just being proactive. Then, why we all don’t do this? simple, because we never got this discipline from our parents. It’s an endless cycle of ignorance that goes from one generation to another until we decide to step up, take the initiative and put an end to it.
July 14, 2010 at 4:44 am
#29 is very debatable. I don’t believe in God, nor do nearly 16% of all people. I definitely agree with Evanescent. Besides-you act like you know everything, and you don’t. No one does.
July 20, 2010 at 1:47 pm
perfect person, yes.
perfect and human? no..
August 22, 2010 at 4:01 am
Can i make a video of these tips?
September 12, 2010 at 12:52 am
I dont agree with a lot of these. Oh and by the way Believing in God is NOT a stupid tradition. He is real if you would talk to him he will talk to you. You will feel him you just have to try.
Anyways i disagree with two cuz everybody has barriers. Barriers are something that stop you or worry you everybody is worried a lot in thier life.
17 cuz all though miney may not be thier first priority it isnt thier last either. Sadley enogh people need money to servive in the world today. I also dont agree with 28. If somebody is a Christain they learn from somebody who knows then teach others who dont know.
September 12, 2010 at 1:16 am
Oh also not to start depate I dont really know if this will or not but less then 2% of the worlds population are REALLY AND TRULY CHRISTAINS. About 85% or 87% or something like that SAY they are Christains but aren’t REALLY AND TRYLY CHRISTAIN. It saddens me cuz on the Decision Day when Jesus comes to take all the true Christains home people who thought they knew Him really didnt and will be left on the earth.
PLEASE BELIEVE! I DON’T WANT ANY OF YOU TO GO TO HELL!!!!
October 5, 2010 at 4:38 pm
Not too long ago in Heaven there was a little soul who took wonder in observing
the world. the little soul enjoyed the love she saw there and often expressed
this joy with God. One day however the little soul was sad, for on this day the little soul
saw suffering in the world. the little soul approached God and sadly asked, “Why do bad
things happen; why is there suffering in the world?”
God paused for a moment and replied, “Little soul, do not be sad, for the
suffering you see, unlocks the love in people’s hearts.” The little soul was
confused. “What do you mean,” the little soul asked.” God replied, “Have you not noticed the
goodness and love that is the offspring of that suffering? Look at how people
come together, drop their differences and show their love and compassion for
those who suffer. All their other motivations disappear and they become
motivated by love alone.”
The little soul began to understand and listened attentively as God continued,
“The suffering soul unlocks the love in people’s hearts much like the sun and
the rain unlock the flower within the seed. I created everyone with endless love
in their heart, but unfortunately most people keep it locked up and hardly share
it with anyone. They are afraid to let their love shine freely, because they are
afraid of being hurt. But a suffering soul unlocks that love. I tell you this –
it is the greatest miracle of all. Many souls have bravely chosen to go into the
world and suffer – to unlock this love – to create this miracle – for the good
of all humanity.”
Just then the little soul got a wonderful idea and could hardly contain herself.
With her wings fluttering, bouncing up and down, the little soul excitedly
replied, “I am brave; let me go! I would like to go into the world and suffer so
that I can unlock the goodness and love in people’s hearts! I want to create
that miracle!” God smiled and said, “You are a brave soul I know, and thus I
will grant your request.
But even though you are very brave you will not be able to do this alone. I have
known since the beginning of time that you would ask for this and so I have
carefully selected many souls to care for you on your journey. Those souls will
help you create your miracle; however they will also share in your suffering.
Some of these souls are most special and will care for you, help you and suffer
along with you, far beyond the others. They have already chosen a name for you.
Do not fear any of those things which you are
about to suffer. Indeed, the devil is about to
throw some of you into prison, that you may be
tested….Be faithful until death, and God will give
you the crown of life. He who has an ear, let
him hear what the Spirit says to the churches.
He who overcomes shall not be hurt by the
second death.
Jesus tells us to be faithful until death.
And every one that hath left houses, or brethren,
or sisters, or father, or mother, or children,
or lands, for God’s name’s sake, shall receive a
hundredfold, and shall inherit eternal life.
God has chosen those people he wants them to know, tolove and, to serve. We are
continually being drawnto one another in ways that are not coincidental.
we pray that we may become a better instrument tolove and to serve and that we
may become moreworthy to receive the love and service of others.
October 5, 2010 at 5:28 pm
I was an atheist at one time. And like many atheists, the issue of people believing in God bothered me greatly. What is it about atheists that we would spend so much time, attention, and energy refuting something that we don’t believe even exists?! What causes us to do that? When I was an atheist, I attributed my intentions as caring for those poor, delusional people…to help them realize their hope was completely ill-founded. To be honest, I also had another motive. As I challenged those who believed in God, I was deeply curious to see if they could convince me otherwise. Part of my quest was to become free from the question of God. If I could conclusively prove to believers that they were wrong, then the issue is off the table, and I would be free to go about my life.
I didn’t realize that the reason the topic of God weighed so heavily on my mind, was because God was pressing the issue. I have come to find out that God wants to be known. He created us with the intention that we would know him. He has surrounded us with evidence of himself and he keeps the question of his existence squarely before us. It was as if I couldn’t escape thinking about the possibility of God. In fact, the day I chose to acknowledge God’s existence, my prayer began with, “Ok, you win…” It might be that the underlying reason atheists are bothered by people believing in God is because God is actively pursuing them.
I am not the only one who has experienced this. Malcolm Muggeridge, socialist and philosophical author, wrote, “I had a notion that somehow, besides questing, I was being pursued.” C.S. Lewis said he remembered, “…night after night, feeling whenever my mind lifted even for a second from my work, the steady, unrelenting approach of Him whom I so earnestly desired not to meet. I gave in, and admitted that God was God, and knelt and prayed: perhaps, that night, the most dejected and reluctant convert in all of England.”
Lewis went on to write a book titled, “Surprised by Joy” as a result of knowing God. I too had no expectations other than rightfully admitting God’s existence. Yet over the following several months, I became amazed by his love for me.
Unlike any other revelation of God, Jesus Christ is the clearest, most specific picture of God revealing himself to us.
Why Jesus? Look throughout the major world religions and you’ll find that Buddha, Muhammad, Confucius and Moses all identified themselves as teachers or prophets. None of them ever claimed to be equal to God. Surprisingly, Jesus did. That is what sets Jesus apart from all the others. He said God exists and you’re looking at him. Though he talked about his Father in heaven, it was not from the position of separation, but of very close union, unique to all humankind. Jesus said that anyone who had seen Him had seen the Father, anyone who believed in him, believed in the Father.
He said, “I am the light of the world, he who follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” He claimed attributes belonging only to God: to be able to forgive people of their sin, free them from habits of sin, give people a more abundant life and give them eternal life in heaven. Unlike other teachers who focused people on their words, Jesus pointed people to himself. He did not say, “follow my words and you will find truth.” He said, “I am the way, the truth, and the life, no one comes to the Father but through me
He did what people can’t do. Jesus performed miracles. He healed people…blind, crippled, deaf, even raised a couple of people from the dead. He had power over objects…created food out of thin air, enough to feed crowds of several thousand people. He performed miracles over nature…walked on top of a lake, commanding a raging storm to stop for some friends. People everywhere followed Jesus, because he constantly met their needs, doing the miraculous. He said if you do not want to believe what I’m telling you, you should at least believe in me based on the miracles you’re seeingGod does not force us to believe in him, though he could. Instead, he has provided sufficient proof of his existence for us to willingly respond to him. The earth’s perfect distance from the sun, the unique chemical properties of water, the human brain, DNA, the number of people who attest to knowing God, the gnawing in our hearts and minds to determine if God is there, the willingness for God to be known through Jesus Christ.
December 11, 2010 at 6:04 am
Yes correct. It is a great tip for people who want to improve themselves to be a perfect one. To be a perfect person is not easy as your expectation, right?
You must have high responsibilities, commitments especially you have to know where you are , what you are doing and about your own life environment.
Saying is easier but practicing is a bit hard. Try….
Regards,
HY Chan Han
December 23, 2010 at 8:05 am
The more complicated a thing is, the harder to define it’s perfect state becomes.
Complicated are humans.
January 7, 2011 at 11:22 am
It’s quite funny how people tend to argue over religion, beliefs, etc.. in the most strange locations. Neither the theist or the atheist will be perfect, or close to it, if they judge each other. Someone was merely expressing views on the road to a perceived perfection, and yet it ends up being a philosophical debate on the nature of God?
Seriously, if you believe, great, if you don’t, great, either way, why bother arguing with someone on their views? it’s irrelevant what other people believe, find your own truth. I cannot even prove my own existence, nor whether the computer I’m using to type this sentence is real, yet do i argue or judge those who don’t believe these things are real? it is my belief that the reality I am in now is real (here in front of a computer typing a sentence) whether or not anyone else does is not really of my concern. Here’s some points I’d believe would be on the road to perfection: no judgement, no hate, no unforgivingness, no revenge, be happy, live well, be humble, treat others with respect, live now (not tomorrow or yesterday), smile, live within your means, help others, and help yourself.
January 20, 2011 at 1:21 pm
Great tips……………thanku………..$
February 1, 2011 at 4:05 am
[...] Looking for a book in my library, I found a notebook of years back. The years of university when I was a Bsc student. Finding that notebook which has too many daily notes of those years, reminded me of many memories. While I was flipping pages, I found an interesting note there: 30 tips to have a perfect personality.. They are some tips that I wrote them at the age of 18 years old. I just wanted to work on myself and improve what I am. I used to … Read More [...]
February 7, 2011 at 11:04 pm
I think you should keep in mind that there is more than one path to perfection. This is a good list but with #29 it could be good for some people but not something for everybody. I’d like to believe that there can be good people who have different beliefs.
Also I’m really bothered by the fact that people point to physics and say there’s proof that a god exists(this and people who * believe* in evolution). Physics also doesn’t disprove God either, it’s there to find the mechanics as far as we can prove.
E=mc^2 shows that matter can be transformed energy and energy into matter and thermodynamics states that energy can’t be created or transformed. So some might say that God must exist since the universe must have some point right? Well who created God? Most people will say something like “He is infinite and has always existed and will exist”. Well why can’t the universe have always existed? Scientists talk about the big bang… but they really don’t know what it is. What they’re doing is watching where all the galaxies are going and based on that guess where they came from. Which they suspect was a single point. But what if that single point was a previous universe that had collapsed? and before that one there was another universe… and infinite line of universes with no perceived beginning or end.
If you found proof of God in your thoughts or heart great! But don’t start making up stuff based on assumptions and base it on logic you could apply to both sides of the argument. Science and religion are independent of each other and they can coincide… for the most part.
February 7, 2011 at 11:48 pm
Finally:
1) The don’t have to love everything in life. People can love most things, and the stuff they don’t they have to be willing to accept should accept. Ex: You’re not going to love the flesh eating virus that is slowly consuming your daughter’s body as she writhes in agony while you can do nothing. You can love her, and accept it as part of life (assuming you have no knowledge of medicine/it’s not curable). I would be concerned if you loved this virus, but you really shouldn’t hate it either.
6) You should be aware of the future but not worry about it. The same goes for the past.
8) Ignorance is the lack of knowledge. If you can’t be ignorant about something than no normal human being can get past that. There’s no way you can know everything about everything. What’s important is to not let assumptions and your own judgement fill the hole in things you don’t know. I am ignorant to the previous to how people in Turkey live, but I’m not going to make generalizations about them, and i’d be willing to learn real knowledge instead of make up my own.
16) Kind of vague here. Would a stupid tradition be once a years wasting money to go buy silly hats and wear all green? I’m assuming you’re talking about traditions that harm people, animals or the world in general, directly or indirectly.
17) If I were to live in the forest and have a happy life eating berries, with no bank account that would be ok too right? I see what you’re getting at but you’re making a generalized statement which might not be right/necessary for everyone.
18) Its fun to be impractical. It may not be practical to get to the store by only hopping on one leg, but it might be fun. The goal is done, no one is harmed. Does that make me less of a perfect person?
19) People can be perfect with out liking to tease people, the rest of this point I agree with.
20) Nothing is wrong with routine, but its important to be able to be able to handle changes. (It’s ok to pray took eat Sandwiches every day for lunch, and pray at 9pm every night, but If you’re somewhere where there are no sandwiches and you need to drive your grandma to the hospital at 8:59pm, you can’t let it get you down.
26) Some people need more sleep and have weak immune systems? I don’t think this is even a tip to be honest (in fact most of these “tips” are stated as facts).
29) I’ve already explained this one earlier. Having a strong relationship with God is one of many pathways to take, but it’s not a necessary one. It works for many people and I won’t argue that but I believe you can be perfect with out this.
You danced around a big point but never hit it. In whatever you do treat people they way they deserve to be treated. Sometimes it’s hard to know what other people deserve because your own opinions cloud your thoughts, but everyone is human as far as I know, and humans deserve respect. (It’s like treat others the way you wish to be treated only its modified to account for people with different life preferences and mental instabilities). Nothing on your lists argues that I would be a less perfect person if I started stabbing people on the street as long as I had a cheerful attitude except for maybe #1.
My main concern here you make huge blanket statements at times, which might mislead some people.
Thanks to anyone who who read this.
February 10, 2011 at 9:30 am
I made a double post some one please delete one of them
February 13, 2011 at 9:30 am
#13 and #23 i get emotional when other people dislike what i do. i dont get afraid to speak what i have to say but when theres a whole mob of people hating me i can’t. Perfection is hard and prude sometimes
April 14, 2011 at 9:26 pm
I know I cannot be a perfect person because I reject the existance of one.
According to your list,I’m almost perfect, but I don’t believe in God. I believe there’s “something” but I don’t call it with names.
You’ve got a great list there! Too bad it mostly cannot be made in today’s conditions.
May 7, 2011 at 10:32 am
well you can be near perfect if not perfect. i could consider a person with these qualities perfect.
>iq: 200 or above
>memory: ability to remember 80 random words in 5 mis to recall it 30 days later
>hieght:6 foot 5 inch and above
>strength: to lift as much as he weighs
>speed: 100 metres in 11 seconds
these fields are obviously incomplete but any person with all these qualities is near perfect
May 19, 2011 at 9:42 am
Honestly, I disagree with most of this list. A perfect person does not need to love everybody, does not need to fall in love once, being honest frank and straightforward is not necessarily the best trait to have. Bluntly put, your list is idealistic in the “peace loving” way. A perfect person is both academically, and physically superior to others. That is why we say “it is impossible to become imperfect.” Just saying, you can be happy and all, but a perfect person is “the best.”
May 25, 2011 at 3:26 pm
good point..and intresting
May 26, 2011 at 5:39 am
I am 14 and I have noticed similiar traits. People who are perfect like described are more popular and just generally loved by all for thier great qualities. I’ve noticed that to succeed in High School you must be confident, know how to laugh be laughed at and make people laugh, you need to develop a talent or hobby, be nice because no one likes mean people, you cant be dumb or mean, you must look good but dont worry to much about your appearence, and just generally love your life.
May 29, 2011 at 6:06 pm
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June 29, 2011 at 2:29 am
I would NOT like to be like. this. People are different. You are making a vast generalization for all people. I am not like you. You as a perfect person is not me as a perfect person, and vice-versa.
June 29, 2011 at 2:50 am
Perfect person (REVISED EDITION):
30 tips to be a perfect person:
1. Perfect persons know that nothing and no one is perfect. They love everything good in life, and despise everything evil.
2. They seek happiness and a life free from stress. They seek for greatness beyond themselves, and push their limits to achieve great things.
3. They are always joyful in all they do.
4. When times are uneventful, they search for something important to do, to make a difference in their community and the world.
5. They are independent and strong-willed.
6. They learn from the past, live in the present, and are wise about preparing for the future.
7. They are bold and courageous, and always search for new experiences. They are willing to face their fears boldy, and seek out mysteries courageously.
8. They are wise beyond their years.
9. Free from expectations, their relationship is based on free choice and mutual respect, but primarily love.
10. They have a healthy balance of being able to be alone happily and being able to be with others happily.
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12. They love everyone, and they love heartily, sincerely, and infinitely.
13. They are not judgmental. They also watch their tongue and do not speak foolish things. They talk only when needed. and are not over-emotional; nor are they irrational with their words.
14. They are honest and straightforward, but never frank. They are respectful and aware of others feelings. They are driven by their ideals, but founded in reality.
15. They are more stubborn than anyone when it comes to ambition and personal ideals, but open when it comes to learning and growing.
16. They ignore irrelevant traditions, and embrace traditions of family and life.
17. They are studious with their money, and although they have their heart on God and not on money, they are also very wise with making more and spending less money. They are also very giving.
18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.
19. They know how to laugh and make other laugh. They are respectful of other’s feelings and do not like to tease people. They never ridicule others. They don’t laugh at people, but they laugh with them. People enjoy to be with them, bcs they make the atmosphere around themselves joyful.
20. They have a healthy balance between routine and variety, knowing when to choose which is more appropriate.
21. Working hard to be better person, they take life serious when it needs to be serious, and they are fun when seriousness does not fit the occasion.
22. They love what they love and do not let anyone say differently.
23. They are clear and concise with decision-making. They fight through difficulty and and not pulled down when they lose. They recognize that winning is not always the case, and that losing is inevitable. They learn from their mistakes and hence become a better winner. They are efficient in what they do, and go above and beyond with all things. They are a hero/heroine in their life, and they reach for the sky, knowing that even the sky is no limit for their ambitions.
24. Life for them is not living on surface. except when necessary. They usually go for content and know how to live in a classy manner.
25. They are creative and imaginative. They use their mind and their power of thinking. They are powerful, strong and full of energy when it is appropriate.
26. They need good sleep every night and they are healthy. They learn to be focused even when depressed, because life is not perfect, and their life may not have been that great. But they try to be happy anyway.
27. They only put people in groups when people need to be in groups. Which is most of the time.
28. Thirsty to know, They love to learn more and more. They are very curious and are not afraid of failure. They are mostly learner instead of teacher.
29. They have strong relationship with God.
30. They accept what they are. They love themselves and try to be best. The most natural people, They are themselves and not anybody else.
June 29, 2011 at 9:34 am
This article is the shit!
July 1, 2011 at 6:26 pm
This article is ameteur at best, its VERY inconsistent. 1/5
July 9, 2011 at 8:41 am
I like Chris Proia’s list better, but with kudos to the original author (Shahrzad) for the personal maturity to search for her ideals when only 18 and the courage to publish them and to continue growing in her thinking. I think some responders may have lost sight of that.
Chris, thank you for staying neutral about God (we need to leave a little more breathing space for all sorts of beliefs in the God business). However, but I find your intention in 27 ambiguous. We do put people in groups (there are reasons we do that), but we often do that in harmful ways. You imply that I have a NEED “most of the time” to put people in groups. I would prefer that you say, rather, that I have such a tendency.
I would rewrite your 27 as: “While they may generally have a tendency to put people into groups, they stay aware of that tendency and remain conscious of their words and actions so as to not cause harm by doing that–especially by not spreading hate or gossip by categorizing people or their beliefs.”
July 20, 2011 at 8:37 am
Good Advices! But whenever I try something, I realize it is an mistake and you cannot go back in time to fix something.
August 7, 2011 at 12:57 am
I dont have a faith in myself.Can i know what to do.
September 5, 2011 at 2:48 pm
That’s amazing man! but at least you could have come up with the mechanism on how we can attain perfection, be it in biblical or philosophical terms.
September 28, 2011 at 9:15 am
I like your points & really peoples those who live this type of life they are simply small child of god & i think if any one try to follow your tips he/she also get real happyness of life. I like your point i.e. they are not hero they are active supporters.
October 4, 2011 at 2:01 pm
If I go for perfection, does this mean that I am not happy and please with who I am? And if perfection is what I pursue, does it mean that this will be my constant state, trying to please myself or others?
Could it be that happiness is what we all after? And if this happiness is unconditional, won’t we then be boundless?
October 25, 2011 at 6:57 pm
all of it is the other side of me ^^ lol
October 30, 2011 at 3:59 pm
So basically you are saying that an atheist could never be perfect….harsh
also I am intrigued that you paired god with nature in 29
November 26, 2011 at 1:46 pm
rubbish
December 19, 2011 at 11:20 am
I’m going to become perfect for her even if I have to memorize all of these. I love my girlfriend so much I’m willing to do whatever to make myself as perfect as possible, no one’s completely perfect but like hell I can try.
December 30, 2011 at 6:47 pm
Hey,,
sharazad i am also now a b.sc student i am agree all your tips they are all represent the nature a purity of humanity but your discussion about existing of God with this refrence that e=mc2 prove tha God exist . . , . . How this prove???
February 18, 2012 at 2:54 pm
a perfect person do not give up until they get what they want. And who are you to say what a PERFECT PERSON is.!
February 23, 2012 at 8:57 pm
Awesome list except for the first part of number 29. I don’t need religion or god to be a good person and know right from wrong.
February 25, 2012 at 7:21 pm
I am perfect…. It’s others that view me as flawed.
. Btw, interesting list 
April 5, 2012 at 3:53 am
I think that it is fine for this list to have #29. She wrote this in a personal notebook at 18, ppl. This may just be instructions or “goals” for herself to achieve. An it is fine strive for a strong relationship with God, As an agnostic from a family with a Methodist father and atheist mother, I have learned to believe that “God” is the name we have given to a force of unexplainable love and compassion that moves us as human beings. And having a strong relationship with love and compassion is a good thing, I think.
Btw I’m thirteen, so if want to argue with me, then keep in mind that I have no life experience, so yea.