Looking for a book in my library, I found a notebook of years back. The years of university when I was a Bsc student. Finding that notebook which has too many daily notes of those years, reminded me of many memories. While I was flipping pages, I found an interesting note there: 30 tips to have a perfect personality..
They are some tips that I wrote them at the age of 18 years old. I just wanted to work on myself and improve what I am. I used to check back them now and then, change some tips and add some other tips. Interesting to look back to the age. Now i can see how much i changed. But still i am not completely fitted with the list.
30 tips to be a perfect person:
1. Perfect persons love everything in their life. They love Cities, Villages, plains, deserts, oceans, mountains, animals and every thing in the nature. They generally love life
2. They never complain and don’t waste their time with moaning. They never wish to be other person. . They don’t have barriers in their mind.
3. They are always excited for what they are doing.
4. They don’t get bored. They find something to do even in boring moments. They hate showing off and pretending to enjoy. They enjoy realities.
5. They are independent and dont feel guilty. They don’t punish themselves.
6. They live in the present time and are not worried about the future.
7. They are not afraid of unknowns and always search for new experiences. They love mysterious things.
8. They are not ignorant and stupid.
9. They don’t enforce their love to beloves. Free from expectations, their relationship is based on free choice and mutual respect.
10. Their private corner is very important for them. Sometimes they really love to be alone with the self.
11. They don’t fall in love several times. Usually they fall in love once and forever.
12. They are restrict to choose the beloved. But they love heartily and sincerely. Their love to their beloves will never end.
13. Their way in life is not judgmental. They also don’t care about others’ judgment and don’t need people’s admiration and sympathy. They don’t need to make all people satisfied. They always say what they want and are not scared to proclaim their ideas.
14. They are honest, frank and straightforward. They live based on their wishes and ideas.
15. They are not stubborn. But they choose their way by own.
16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.
17. There is an account in the bank for them. But they don’t kill themselves to make it full of money. Money is the last thing they care for.
18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.
19. They know how to laugh and make laugh. They like to tease people. But their way is not bcs of enmity or hatred. They never ridicule others. They don’t laugh at people, but they laugh with them. People enjoy to be with them, bcs they make joyful atmosphere around themselves.
20. Routine life is not their way. They love variety.
21. This life for them is a temporary time. Working hard to be better person, they never take life serious.
22. They dont say sorry for what they really love to have.
23. Facing the problems, They don’t get emotional and confused. They fight and win over problems. But they also don’t fight to take ineffectual and unfruitful goals. They are not essentially hero/heroine. Yet they are active and supportive.
24. Life for them is not living on surface. They usually go for content and know how to live.
25. They are crative and imaginative. For anything, They use their mind and their power of thinking. They are powerful, strong and full of energy.
26. They need less sleep and they are healthy. There is no way for depression.
27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.
28. Thirsty to know, They love to learn more and more. They are very curious and are not afraid of failure. They are mostly learner instead of teacher.
29. They have strong relationship with God. They love nature and the world.
30. They accept what they are. They love themselves and try to be best. The most natural people, They are themselves and not anybody else.
Is there any other character that i forgot to mention? What about you? How much you’re fitted with the tips? Based on the tips, how much you’re perfect?
See also 15 Tips To Be An Empowered Muslim
February 2, 2008 at 7:20 pm
Good points, although not sure about # 7. I mean like “not think about the future?”
If only I could find some person with all these great qualities.
February 2, 2008 at 7:23 pm
Besides nobody’s perfect.
February 2, 2008 at 9:51 pm
Isn’t it interesting what we can find looking back through our old school notes? I like your list
February 3, 2008 at 12:17 am
no-ones perfect, although I’d like to be..
inshalla I will become better..
February 3, 2008 at 12:45 am
If only it was so easy
February 3, 2008 at 1:34 am
O man!!!…if it were not for #11, I were a perfect person.
Welll…I do not agree with part of #9 Free from expectations…I think it is very natural to expect..unintentionally…like to every action ..we do expect a reaction..don’t we?
But good check list, Shahrzad.
February 3, 2008 at 2:09 am
Wonder if anybody in the whole World has all the mentioned qualities in today’s world ….. ????
Lol …..
February 3, 2008 at 4:23 am
Right Maryam nobody is perfect just like Jesus said.
“There is none good but one and that is God.”
Who can say, I have made my heart clean, I am pure from my sin? – Proverbs 20
February 3, 2008 at 8:07 am
You were very wise beyond your years at 18. Great tips.
February 3, 2008 at 8:39 am
My beloved says I am perfect for her. That’s enough for me
Ya Haqq!
February 3, 2008 at 8:44 am
I liked your list. It makes me think about how we quit reaching so high as we get older.
February 3, 2008 at 4:38 pm
cool list..
gotta agree with you list..
a good way to improving myself..
especially i’ve left with number 26, i need less sleep..
theheee~
February 3, 2008 at 6:12 pm
I agree with most of them, except 17: money is an important means of acquiring things we value – wealth allows us to make our lives more filled and enjoyable, so a virtuous person pursues money as a means to an end just as much as he pursues love as a means to an end – the ultimate end of course being his/her own life.
16 you said:
And yet no. 29:
God is an example of a stupid tradition. There is no part of believing in god that makes a person more virtuous. Actually, because it is an irrelevant irrational concept, believing in god is a vice, not a virtue.
Apart from that your list is mainly accurate.
February 3, 2008 at 6:29 pm
I must remind you that God is not a tradition. That’s a reality or a fact. Believing in him can be considered as tradition.
Of course who believes in God cares about human values more than a person who is not a believer.
I’ve brought up in a family that one side was completely disbeliever and one side was believer in God. I exactly have seen how much believing in God can change a person to become better human being.
With too many proofs that prove God’s existence -in sciences, religions and in philosophical aspects- insisting to reject this reality seems kind of ignorance.. There are a very little group in the world who doesnt believe in God.
So nowadays that’s “disbelieving in God” which is an example of old stupid tradition.
February 3, 2008 at 8:10 pm
I was interested in your list, and it clearly shows what kind of life you imagined for yourself, and what kind of worldview you were given as a child.
You have a very strong cultural sense of what a perfect person is, and your insistence that a relationship with God is necessary for this is disappointing. That may be your way, but it’s wrong to suggest that is the only way. I’m afraid there are no scientific proofs for God’s existence (and neither religion nor philosophy are able to produce verifiable ‘proof’ in this sense), and most of the world does not believe in a Christian God, or in a monotheistic god of any kind. And yet people can be happy.
Perhaps number 31 could be ‘An appreciation that we are not all the same, and that my way should not be considered the only path to happiness’. Other than that, an interesting list.
February 3, 2008 at 8:31 pm
If you study physics and philosophy, there are many proofs for God’s existance. Even the famous formula of Einstein – E=MC^2 – is a proof.
Also in the Mathematic, a simple integral can prove God’s existance. So for me that’s an old discussion. For i went throgh kind of questions and found my answer.
On the other hand, when i mentioned believing in God, i didnt spesify it. Doesnt matter he be known as Supreme Being, Jehovah, Allah, christian God, Bodha, Krishna , Ahoura Mazda or anybody else. Doesnt matter it be God or Gods. The concept is same. That’s important when majority believe in power or powers beyond their humanistic power; Creator and ruler of the universe..
The last point, it is the tips that i believe in. I didnt enforce it to others that they also believe and i didnt say that’s the only way. People have free choice
February 3, 2008 at 8:48 pm
Good to read, I will find myself where I am.
Salam,
Ali
February 3, 2008 at 10:02 pm
Irving, I see your point. Now for me is the same
February 4, 2008 at 3:43 am
bravo
February 4, 2008 at 2:14 pm
Useful post
February 4, 2008 at 3:07 pm
I think these are ideals we should pursue, but as an old Doc who has dealt with a lot of folks through the years, I haven’t met the perfect human yet, (except Jesus) and I am at the top of the list of those with faults.
However, this should not deter us from the pursuit of excellence. My motto is “Just ’cause I can’t be perfect ain’t gonna stop me from trying.”
Dr. Tom Bibey
drtombibey.wordpress.com
February 4, 2008 at 3:35 pm
Dr. Tom Bibey, I liked your motto
February 4, 2008 at 7:46 pm
I don’t really like this post… particularly 17. Also, 29 is just straight pretentious.
I think this model of “the perfect person” describes a hippy, not a responsible, self-actualized, fulfilled adult.
February 4, 2008 at 7:56 pm
Shauna, Are you sure you know meaning of “hippy” exactly?! I wonder if you know..
February 4, 2008 at 11:49 pm
hippie: someone who rejects the established culture; advocates extreme liberalism in politics and lifestyle (http://wordnet.princeton.edu/perl/webwn?s=hippy)
Yes, I get it.
February 5, 2008 at 12:15 am
Shauna, So maybe you didnt get my entry or didnt read it carefully.
I didnt reject any established culture nor do i advocate extreme liberalism in politics and lifestyle.
About the lifestyle the whole issue here is, NOT to live based on other desires and what other expect us to do.
What is rejected here is for example wasting too much money on wedding parties for showing off which is considered as stupid tradition. It is kind of living for others.
Also i even didnt talk about politics. Nor do i say people must wear esp clothes. (what hippies do)
So accept that label of hippy for the tips is abit nonsense..
February 5, 2008 at 9:52 pm
Shahrzad, sorry I don’t want to turn this into a debate, as I just wanted to agree or disagree with your list, but I need to correct you here:
Who told you this?? This no more proves god than the fact that the sky is blue.
What e=mc^2 proves is the LAW OF IDENTITY – that the universe exists and that everything in it acts consistently with its nature – to exist, is to exist as SOMETHING, and to act like THAT THING. Just as 2+2 = 4 and A is A, e=mc^2 – this proves absolutely nothing except that existence is identity – that is how we identify logic.
The fact that so many people throughout the ages have believed, means nothing – you will find less belief and more secularism the nearer in time you get. As science and knowledge and education increases, you find less people that believe in magical beings.
Here is one proof that god doesn’t exist: all conscious actions are a result of need or want or desire or force. “God” does not need, want, or desire anything, and it cannot be forced to do anything – therefore the creation of the universe is a contradiction in terms; “god” would never DO anything! Let alone create anything. The universe exists, therefore god doesn’t. QED.
February 5, 2008 at 10:23 pm
Hey Shahrzad,
I got 29/30
. The only one I messed up on was this one:
27. They don’t put people in groups and don’t blame them.
I put war-mongers and dangrious religious cultists in groups and blame them for trying to start wars with other religious cultists over who is more right. I will try to work on that one so I can get 30/30.
Be sweet!
February 5, 2008 at 10:25 pm
evanescent,
The discussion on E=MC2 is so long. You can check this link for a logic reasoning on what i said based on phycics
http://wiki.answers.com/Q/What_is_the_proof_of_God’s_creation
The only theory in physics which you could mention to reject God can be theory of Quantum Mechanics (introduced by Heisenberg) for it discuss that nothing is completely certain. This theory also is rejected with another theory famous as Bohmian Quantum mechanic which “correct” the theory and reject the part of theory which reject God.
For scularism and future of humanity you can read my other post:
http://shahrzaad.wordpress.com/2007/08/18/does-humanity-have-a-future/
February 5, 2008 at 10:30 pm
johnnypeepers, Awww, you’re right anyway. I meant those extrimists who put “normal” people in group of pegans lol
You do good job on blaming them.
February 6, 2008 at 6:25 am
Aaaah, yes! The pleasure of digging through old stuff to discover hidden wisdom. Thanks for sharing.
Though when you really think about some of those points some of them are subjective and relative to which side of the fence you’re on.
February 7, 2008 at 1:54 pm
Bubbles, Thank you for your comment. Yes, i discovered many interesting notes in this notebook which i can not believe that i wrote them.
February 8, 2008 at 12:02 am
salam !
“als ich des suchens müde ward, erlernte ich das finden” (Nietzsche)
sorry my english is worse but i try to translate:
“once i got tired of searching, i tried to learn finding”
this seems to me much reasonable to become (or to try to become) a perfekt person.
thank you
February 15, 2008 at 3:50 pm
you all missed the point. You need to read my lifestyle guide for the 21st century
HOW TO BE PERFECT
February 28, 2008 at 10:14 pm
You’ve got some bright insights at age 18, that’s for sure. Interesting list.
April 2, 2008 at 2:37 am
interesting. more so than the list, the spirit and vision of the person behind it. i came across this site randomly after a google search, i think I will bookmark it and look around later.
April 9, 2008 at 1:51 am
SOOO much worth stealing ;d
October 27, 2008 at 1:51 am
It’s interesting to read ur list. i always think of how can i be a perfect person and thats the reason behind visiting this website.i have search google for “tips to be perfect” and i have found this one.i dont think that this is the ideal list,everyone has his own list according to his\her way of understanding life and what they want to be.
although its an interesting list,it didn’t match with my list.
i beleive that we must get benefit of everything in life,obvouisly,the good not the bad.
i always say to my friends that i’m a “project for a perfect person”.it doesn’t end here but i always look at the future and compare how much i have changed.
November 3, 2008 at 8:47 pm
Hi….i think it is all about struggle with life….
and it keeps something worthyable themes in our life…
we can learn how to sarview in the sea of life…
but i am not agree on 9th one….
….
thanks…
February 21, 2009 at 8:08 pm
I always wanted to be perfect & be brilliant in everything i do. I agree with all the tips but, the problem is i do not have a single tip you have mentioned.
February 22, 2009 at 7:45 pm
That’s sounds alot like me. Or maybe i am just dreaming…
but i will try my best to correct this major flaw.
But to me the most important thing in life is to help people in need of help. Because most of us are blinded with our own in-ambitions that we forget the people we leave behind. That’s just sad…
I totally condemn streotyping. Don’t care if u r black or white, i will be a good friend to u.
The only point i don’t agree with here is that i love god. God has never helped us in anything, we have to work our ass off to get what we want. But i respect religions, so as long they don’t tout it.
October 2, 2009 at 4:59 am
id like to point out a flaw right here
theres some contradiction:
16. They ignore stupid traditions and irrelevant barriers.
if you are perfect, you’re open minded enough to admire others traditions and barriers without letting them stop you personally.
18. Seriously and attentively, they’re wise, open-minded and practical.
what is the author’s idea of open-minded anyway?
who wrote this? not a buddhist thats for certain
it’s so ‘ME, ME, ME’ and well its not really perfect at all
October 27, 2009 at 2:38 am
are you serious?
people are arguing and shoving their beliefs on the comments of a simple blog
so what if the person who wrote this list believed in God, they didn’t tell you have to believe in any God
to the author of the note, i suppose the easier way to not have people argue religion, is to ‘coexist’, i mean with all due respect to the writer of the note, the note could be written for the audience for all people of certain beliefs?
so you wouldnt get annoying hags who try to convince you that their beliefs are right over the ‘net
anyways yes im a hypocrite for even commenting about stupid comments
ON A POSITIVE NOTE
it’s pretty cool
first result to show up on the google search page
November 11, 2009 at 2:34 pm
These are great. Of course all us fall short, but my motto is “Just ’cause I’m not perfect ain’t gonna stop me from trying to be.”
Dr. B drtombibey.wordpress.com